When Circumstances Are Down...

"Instead of spending your time thinking about how bad things
are, think about how good they will be!"

Everyone knows that a positive attitude is key to the
successful life. But what happens when things go wrong? What
happens when circumstances deal us a blow?

Life deals us setbacks, both minor and major, on a regular
basis, but if we are going to be successful, we need to know
how to deal with them and keep our attitudes intact!

I'm sure you are aware of what happens when you are going about your day and everything seems to be
going well, when out of nowhere disaster strikes. All of
your best-laid plans begin to tumble. Sometimes
circumstances surprise us and we react.

Unfortunately, this often compounds the problem because by
reacting we tend to operate out of our weaknesses instead of
our strengths. We make decisions that are not well thought
out. We function with a bad attitude that says, "I can't
believe this is happening!"

The next time circumstances turn against you, take some time
to just step back from the problem and think. This will
enable you to deal with the issue at hand rationally,
instead of emotionally. It will allow you to put your state
of mind back into its proper place.

A man was once asked how he was doing and he responded, "Pretty
well, under the circumstances." The other man asked, "What
are you doing under the circumstances?" hmm. Good question. but know what? We
shouldn't be under the circumstances, we should be focused on
the goal and moving forward.

Focus on solutions, not problems. The squeaky wheel gets the
oil, the old saying goes. Negative circumstances don't sit
idly by. They scream for our attention. When we face
difficult circumstances, we tend to dwell on them. We talk
about them, fret about them, and give them way too much
attention.

Instead of talking about problems, talk about solutions.
Instead of spending your time thinking about how bad things
are, think about how good they will be!

Don't let yourself complain when circumstances have got you against the emotional wall, get with a good friend who can encourage you.
Tell yourself the good. One of the greatest internal powers
we have is the power to control our thoughts. Spend time
dwelling on the good things about your life or job instead
of the problems. Think about positive things, things you
enjoy and give you a sense of happiness and peace.

There is an old childhood song that says, "Count your
blessings, name them one by one." That is great advice! Let
your positive attitude develop from within as well as from
without. This makes all the difference!

The Two Choices We Face

Each of us has two distinct choices to make about what we
will do with our lives. The first choice we can make is to
be less than we have the capacity to be. To earn less. To
have less. To read less and think less. To try less and
discipline ourselves less.

These are the choices that lead to an empty life. These are
the choices that, once made, lead to a life of constant
apprehension instead of a life of wondrous anticipation.

And the second choice? To do it all! To become all that we
can possibly be. All of us have the choice.

To do or not to do. To be or not to be. To be all or to be
less or to be nothing at all!

Like the tree, it would be a worthy challenge for us all to
stretch upward and outward to the full measure of our
capabilities. Why not do all that we can, every moment that
we can, the best that we can, for as long as we can?

Our ultimate life objective should be to create as much as
our talent and ability and desire will permit. To settle for
doing less than we could do my people, is to fail.

Results are the best measurement of human progress. Not
conversation. Not explanation. Not justification. Results!
And if our results are less than our potential suggests that
they should be, then we must strive to become more today
than we were the day before.

Here's a positive affirmation you may wish to write down and
recite to yourself...

"I am making the choice to live up to my greatest potential.
In doing those things to the best of my abilities which need
to be done I am moving in the right direction. Day in and
day out I am walking the path that will lead
towards my achieving the goals that I've set for myself."

Getting Married!!!

Getting married in ten days!!!!!

wow, I miss my blog, think I should write some posts before I become Mrs.

Good idea, huh

Your Dream is Calling You

"Climb every mountain, search high and low
Follow every byway, every path you know.
Climb every mountain, ford every stream,
Follow every rainbow, 'til you find your dream"!

We've all been encouraged, by someone, to go out and live our dreams. Our dreams, themselves, have even been personally calling us for many years but we have not taken the call.

Most of us may have even looked at the caller Id and decided not to
answer. There's also a percentage of us that hide behind
excuses, like -- "I don't know what my calling is" or "I
don't have a dream." Those excuses have merely kept us in
the bleachers of life, refusing to come onto the playing
field.

As a wise man once said "Excuses are the tools of the
incompetent, used to build bridges that go absolutely
nowhere." The simple truth of the matter is that most people
have allowed fear to paralyze their dreams and goals.

Well no need to worry... your dreams are STILL calling you and
they're orchestrating certain events in your lives,
specifically designed to get your full attention!

So often, we are visited by concepts and insights, for witty
inventions and ideas, which we never act on. Another wise man once
said, "Procrastination is a thief and you must evict it out
of your life, before it becomes a murderer!"

Procrastination, if given enough time, will become a
murderer of all the dreams, ideas, and greatness on the
inside of you.

Make a decision, today, to remove all excuses and accept the
calling on your life. Uncover what it is you love to do so much,
that you'd do it for free. Once you've figured that out, do it so
well that people will want to pay you for it! Choose, this day, to
longer accept mediocrity.

Give life and breath to all the talents, dreams, and
potential that lay dormant inside you - because the world is
waiting for your book, your song, your dance, your
composition. The world is waiting for your unique and
special gift!

Follow every river...till you find your dream.

Be an Original

It takes great courage to be true to your values, hopes and
dreams. Being authentic isn't just about speaking your truth
- it's also about becoming the person you were meant to be
and doing the dreams that reside within your heart.

So many people would rather be a part of the crowd than step
out and live their greatness. Too many amongst us would
rather be seduced by the illusion of security than take some
risks to get to their personal mountaintops. And so their
lives stay small.

You are meant to shine. And you are meant to be your best
you. Comfortable in your own skin. Authentic. Hmmm.

Nothing worse than getting to the end of your life and
realizing you lived your neighbor's life. Live your values.
Enjoy your passions. Live life on your own terms. Live your
truth (and the gigantic potential that resides within you).
It doesn't matter if others laugh.

You'll be you!!!!

Setbacks Are Lessons

"Slow and steady wins the race." It's not glamorous, but
it's true. The tragedy is that most people never even get in
the race, and many of those who do, hope that success comes
easily and swiftly.

When it doesn't, they're out of the race before it really even
begins. What they don't realize is that the decision to be
unstoppable is never made just once. It is made moment by
moment, again and again.

Setbacks are inevitable. In fact, they're evidence that
we're doing something. The more mistakes we make, the
greater our chance of success. Failures indicate a
willingness to experiment and take risks.

Unstoppable women and men have learned that each failure
brings wisdom and insight that will take them one step
closer to achieving their dreams. When we focus on one
unstoppable moment at a time and stay the course, the end
result will take care of itself.

It's important to remind ourselves that failure is an event,
not a person. If you don't achieve your 30-day goal, does
that make you a failure? If you don't get a promotion at
work, does that make you a failure? Of course not!

Failure doesn't characterize who you are. It is simply an
event that happens to you. And when you continue to move
forward, despite difficult experiences, you have already
won!

Let The Sunshine In

There are two types of people in this world - those who
think of all the great ways to get from where they are to
where they want to be and those who do something about
getting from where they are to that ideal place.

All too often we sit and simply complain about the state of
affairs in our lives: 'Nothing is going my way:'My job sucks;'No-one loves me';
'If I only had the money';I wish I had the chance to do something like that'.
The complaints and excuses seem to come faster than the self pity.

But believe it or not, the solution is a simple one. Turn the
tables and instead of constantly complaining about what you
think is not going well - and many things might not be as
you wish them at the moment - think about what IS going well
in your life and begin to overshadow the negative energy
with lots of positive vibes.

Once you begin to focus on the positives, the negatives
start to literally disappear. When you open the door and
allow the sunshine into your life, the darkness will begin
to fade. I've been there and I can tell you from personal
experience, there is nothing more positive than optimistic
energy.

Get out of bed with a spring and smile. Know deep inside
you'll enjoy the day, in spite of what you may confront.
Everything might not go well. There could be challenges and
obstacles, but if you take the view that life is fantastic
and a real blessing in spite of what negative forces you may
confront, you are beginning the process of inviting love,
light, energy, gratitude, joy and happiness into your
existence.

Begin today to fill your life with wonderful thoughts,
feelings and emotions and start to harvest the incredible
benefits derived from an upbeat attitude.

The three rules of success and abundance: Believe: Believe:
Believe. Once you do that, then you act. The results will
truly amaze you!

Let the sunshine!!

Contagious Enthusiasm

Why and how can a positive attitude directly affect your
success? Your mood affects your beliefs, which in turn
reflects onto your personal life and whatever you do.
If you are in a negative mood, it will sweep
through your life like a wild fire.

Staying positive and enthusiastic is essential. A positive attitude along with
contagious enthusiasm will help you in life.

Even if you think of yourself as a marketing zero for example(i used
to think like that),you can make a good start towards becoming a
marketing hero if you have a positive state of mind and contagious enthusiasm.

Although you know that enthusiasm is contagious, it is also
contagious to reflect on negative energy. In fact, it is
even easier for us to pick up negative vibes and reflect
them internally in our daily lives.

So watch out for negative energy and stay away from negative
forces in your life. Being positive will promote your self-
esteem, self-belief and help you avoid depression.
Go beyond just memories of success and bring to mind
anything that makes you feel good, you'll feel better, more confident
and the future will look more promising!

You are what you think and when you think and feel stronger,
you are stronger!!


So smile and make it a great day!

Think About What You Think About

1. …And if you catch yourself thinking about unhappiness, ill health and adversity, “change the channel” and think about what you want to happen!

2. When something happens by chance, follow up. "Lucky" people tend to notice and act on good things that occur by happenstance.

3. Believe that good things will happen. Expectations have a way of coming true.

4. When bad things happen, look for the bright side; i.e., “what did I learn from that?” or, “how do I keep it from happening again?” Don't dwell on it, move on!

5. If the horse dies, dismount. Don't continue to pour money and effort into a lost cause.

6. Don’t look for love in the wrong places… not just romantic love but the love of “stuff.” Stuff is O.K., but understand the delusion of “I'll be happy when I have this or that,” or “when I live over there,” or “when this happens.” Happiness is a state of mind in which our thinking is pleasant most of the time.

7. Failure is a CHOICE made by the undisciplined. Failing to meet your objectives, regardless of what they are, is a choice, because something else has been given higher priority. If you fail, it is because you choose to fail.

8. You don't “catch” depression and you don't “catch” happiness… you “create” them by the thoughts you put into your mind. Carefully choose what you read, listen to and the people with whom you associate.

Eight Lessons From Ed Foreman.

Remove Limiting Beliefs

Do you know that our beliefs are never neutral?. They either hold us back or
move us forward, but what many of us forget, is that we
choose what we believe.

Your attitudes and beliefs determine your thoughts and
feelings and logically from that, you make choices and
decisions. For example, if your dream is say to be the best in whatever it is that you do but you don't believe it's possible, you may have
thoughts such as, "it's going to be too difficult," or you
may feel overwhelmed by the idea.

Some people have what I’d call scarce mentality and this
translates to thoughts or comments such as, "I don't have
enough time, money or energy."

Others are plagued with inadequacy and sounds like, "I'm
not (blank) enough." The most common fill-ins include: "I'm
not: old enough, young enough, rich enough, good enough or smart
enough."

Tell you what, if you follow these thinking, chances are high that you will
give up before you fully explore the possibilities around
your dream

On the other hand, if you believe in yourself and therefore
believe in your dreams, you are more likely to realize how
much you want this dream and will be more likely to act on
it. A positive belief will support you while a negative
belief may destroy you; or at least your dream.

Keep dreaming, keep trusting and keep believing, the sky is just the beginning!!!

Encouraging Others

If you are in a valley, then remember this. Others have been
there (including myself) so hang in there you can do it.

Whatever your goal is, maybe attaining a dream like building a
business or raising a family...remember others have done
it... you can too. Hang in there.

But if you are at a peak. Do not underestimate what a few kind
words of encouragement might do for those around you.

So encourage someone today with a kind word and who knows you might be a life saver!!!

On Facing Adversity

You can't always control what happens to you, but you can
always control how you react to what happens to you.

Did you get that? Please read that again as it's that
important.

In life, any number of things can happen -- good or bad. As
someone far brighter than I once said, "the only constant thing in life is
change."

So, no matter what may have happened to us, whether it was someone taking advantage of us, a shift in the economy that led to being downsized,the death of a loved one or
virtually any other situation you choose to apply to this,
the simple truth remains -- how we choose to react to it is
well within our control.

That is not to say that it's always going to be easy,
sometimes it means accepting things we have a hard time
accepting, and taking corrective measures that are anything
but comfortable.

However, the powerful thing about acknowledging this truth
is that in doing so we come to realize that we are able to
get over simply accepting the role of victim -- the part
that says, this happened to me -- this is why I'm this way,
and as a result I can't do anything to change where I am.

Instead we are able to move to a more empowering position
of, this happened, but by taking action I can change my
particular situation for the better.

Through fully embracing the belief that you have control
over how you react to what occurs in your life you unleash
your personal greatness. You no longer have to accept that
you are at the mercy of whatever may come your way, but
rather that you can take an active role in defining, and in
turn get on with living your perfect life.


ITS YOUR LIFE, LIVE BIG!!

Be Courageous!!!

Aristotle believed, and I think correctly, that courage is
the first of the human virtues, because it makes the others
possible.

Courage is the ability to exercise your free will and make
things happen in the face of setbacks and unforeseen
challenges, by selecting healthy role models and mentors and
taking daily actions that define who you are to become.

We are not what society and randomness have made us. Take for example the fonding fathers of America, most of them arrived into the new world with nothing
more than hope and a willingness to do whatever it takes to
achieve their own dream.

We are what we have chosen to be from
the depth of our very souls and being. We are made
based upon our beliefs.

No significant decisions -- personal or business -- have
ever been undertaken without the attendant feelings of
anxiety and uncertainty. The commitment to wade
through these inevitable crises is the meaning of courage.

To gain courage is to change your beliefs about what you
deserve and about what's possible with patience and
persistence.

Get out of your comfort zone and stretch your limitations
this week!

THAT'S WHAT I'M DOING!!!

Thomas Edison dreamed of a lamp that could be operated by electricity, he began where he stood to put his dream into action, and despite more than ten thousand failures, he stood by that dream until he made it a physical reality. Practical dreamers do not quit.

What kind of dreamer are you!!!

What About Dreams?

A dream is simply something that you want. And where do
dreams come from? You make them up. Some are based on needs
such as putting healthy food on the table or sending your
kids to a good school.

Some of them are based on desires such as writing a book,
buying a home, or traveling to an exotic location. But by
far, the most profound dreams are those that are the
expression of your life's purpose. Some things you need to kknow about dreams.

* You have to have a dream to have a dream come true.

* Believing in your dream is an essential component.

* There are signs showing you which way to go. Learn to read
and act on them.

* There is often lag time between imagining your dream and
making it happen.

* You have the ability to make your dreams happen but it
will require your willingness to do whatever it takes.

* On the other side of fear are great lessons. Stay more
committed to your dream than to your doubt.

* As you complete one dream, it's time for another. Don't
ever be afraid to cross the finish line. There are always
more dreams available.

It's your life, dream big, live big!!

As we leave 2009 behind and step into 2010, this is it, welcome to a wonderful year!!!

Happy new year!!!!

Dream Big, Dream Bold

What invites you to conceive of brave, big, and bold dreams
in your life?

Martin Luther King dreamed brave dreams. "I have a dream
that one day this nation will rise up and live out the true
meaning of its creed: all men are created equal."

John F. Kennedy dreamed bold dreams. Kennedy stated his
dream in May of 1961. "I believe that this nation should
commit itself to achieving the goal, before this decade is
out, of landing a man on the moon and returning him safely
to the Earth."

The dream became a reality on July 20, 1969, when Apollo 11
commander Neil Armstrong took a small step for himself and a
giant step for mankind, leaving a dusty trail of footprints
on the moon.

What about your bold dreams? What is in the imagination of
your heart for your goals?

Do you dream in ways that create more meaning to your life?

Start dreaming today!!

Friday Quotes...

- Blessed are they who can laugh at themselves, for they shall never cease to be amused.

- You can't change the past, but you can ruin the present by worrying over the future.

- Some people come into our lives and quickly go.
Some stay for awhile and leave footprints on our hearts.
And we are never, ever the same.

- You are only young once, but you can stay immature indefinitely.

- A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart and can sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words.

- You've got to dance like nobody's watching, and love like it's never going to hurt....

Have a swell weekend everyone!!

The Dawn

Do you ever notice what the dawn is really like? Take a look
at it some time and you will notice a regeneration taking
place.

Nature doesn't have to motivate itself to begin a new day.
It begins naturally with the dawn. The sun rises over the
horizon, animal sounds begin to pervade the silence, trees
and plants awaken and a new day has surfaced.

What is your dawn like? Do you wake up and habitually do the
same things without any real awareness?

Many people begin their days with an automatic set of
thoughts, actions and feelings. What we often forget is that
each dawn is an opportunity to create the day we want. It
doesn't "dawn" on us that we can do this so instead we let
the same old thoughts, feelings and actions take over and
then we wonder why our days seem to be the same.

The earth awakens each dawn to reveal life. How do you
awaken each day?

Happy New Year!!

Hi everyone,
God bless and happy new year, it's been quite a while here, it's been work, work lately, however I have made up my mind that I will blog this year, new year resolution you can say, LOL!, so see more of you around.

TC everyone.

I just got this in my mail, I think it's a great story, so I decided to share.

In 1883, a creative engineer named John Roebling was inspired by an idea to build a spectacular bridge connecting New York with Brooklyn, however bridge building experts throughout the world thought that this was an impossible feat and told Roebling to forget the idea. It just could not be done. It was not practical. It had never been done before.

Roebling could not ignore the vision and after much discussion and persuasion he managed to convince his son Washington, an up and coming engineer, that the bridge in fact could be built. Working together for the first time, the father and son developed concepts of how it could be accomplished and how the obstacles could be overcome. With great excitement and inspiration, and the headiness of a wild challenge before them, they hired their crew and began to build their dream bridge.

The project started well, but when it was only a few months underway a tragic accident on the site took the life of John Roebling. Washington was injured and left with a certain amount of brain damage, which resulted in him not being able to walk or talk or even move.

In spite of the mockery and his handicap Washington was never discouraged and still had a burning desire to complete the bridge and his mind was still as sharp as ever. . Suddenly an idea hit him. All he could do was move one finger and he decided to make the best use of it. By moving this, he slowly developed a code of communication with his wife.

He touched his wife's arm with that finger, indicating to her that he wanted her to call the engineers. Then he used the same method of tapping her arm to tell the engineers what to do. It seemed foolish but the project was under way again.

For 13 years Washington tapped out his instructions with his finger on his wife's arm, until the bridge was finally completed. Today the spectacular Brooklyn Bridge stands in all its glory as a tribute to the triumph of one man's indomitable spirit and his determination not to be defeated by circumstances. It is also a tribute to the engineers and their team work, and to their faith in a man who was considered mad by half the world. It stands too as a tangible monument to the love and devotion of his wife who for 13 long years patiently decoded the messages of her husband and told the engineers what to do.

Perhaps this is one of the best examples of a never-say-die attitude that overcomes a terrible physical handicap and achieves an impossible goal.

Even the most distant dream can be realized with determination and persistence.

It's your life, live big!!!