Monday, February 19, 2007

Be Quick To Complement

This is an ancient art fallen into disuse. A really good,
honest compliment shows that you appreciate the person you
admire. There is no shortage of critics. But there is a
dearth of people who say nice things when they genuinely
feel them.

People want and need to know how they're doing.

So be on the lookout for positive acts and attitudes worth
noting. You'll convince the other person that you care-and
you'll convince yourself as well.

Love Always.

Wednesday, February 14, 2007

Dealing With Tough Times

Yeah, wanna know how to deal with tough times, well come along

First, focus on what is working right in your life, at work, in
your marriage, within your own child. What is working right,
what are they doing well, what are their strengths. If you
can't find any, ask someone to point the strengths and good
things out. You may be too blocked to see them.

Second, take time to really appreciate what you do have. .
Do you appreciate all that you have? Sometimes we get so
busy looking ahead at where we are going that we forget
to look behind from where we came.

Third, help someone get what you want. For instance, if cash
flow is low then help someone's business make money by
referring business. Need a car, find someone who needs
transportation and help them. Help someone succeed.

How about this:

1. Recall a time when things were tough. Looking back did
your drama, silent treatment, pity party or anger help you
or the situation?

2. Recall a story that you read about or that someone shared
with you about a tough time they went through. Was it worse
than what you are going through now? Did they survive and
succeed? Will you?

3. Recall a time when you just knew you were alright even
though things didn't look that way. Know that you are
alright right now.

And know what, you sure are!!!

Bless YOU.

Tuesday, February 13, 2007

What Tough Times Require

Everyone experiences tough times, that is just how it goes.
How you react to those times can change how your how your
family reacts to the situation and how
you feel physically and emotionally.

Tough times can be described by an isolated issue (low cash
flow) or a combination of issues (child in trouble, parents'
ill, low cash flow, mergers at work). It is easy to fall
into the trap of going into automatic pilot and reacting as
you always have.

The silent treatment towards everyone, the drama queen/king,
the pity party whine fest, or perhaps the stoic martyr. None
of these behaviors helps to resolve the issues, in fact they
just make matters worse.

Each of the behaviors described above are driven by self
centeredness. It is all about me, you see! The truth is the
issues aren't about you at all. You and only you are making
it about you.

Too often people only focus on what is going wrong in their
world and not about what is working right. The merger isn't
about you...its just business. Your child's trouble isn't
about you... its about him and his choices.

Your parents' illness isn't about you... it's about their
health and the communication clash is only about you because
of your own behavior towards your spouse, you can't change
them, only yourself.

So what can you do about tough times?

Let's talk about this tommorrow.