Friday, June 30, 2006



All covered by the fluffy cushion of integrity.

Treat others as you'd like to be treated yourself, and you won't go far
wrong.If you are treating others in a way that you would'nt accept for yourself,
you are not operating from a position of integrity.
So that's a very brief but effective guide when it comes to dealing with
other people.

How about dealing with yourself, do you follow it then?

It's an important point.
All too often we let ourselves down.
We fail to go the extra mile for ourselves.
We settle for what we know to be second best.
It's easy to do, I know because I've done it.
We all want an easy life, don't we, so why push ourselves when we don't
have to? Integrity, that's why!

Don't get to a stage in life where you look back and realise you were'nt
true to yourself.This applies just as importantly to goal setting.
If you set goals which you think will impress others, or you set goals
which you don't truly desire, you have absolutely no chance of seeing them come true.
This is because you will not be equipped with a foundation of belief in
yourself and the goals, a foundation that drives you to do whatever it takes.
Especially when the going gets tough. Like a lot of the important ideas in life, it is'nt always easy to stick with your integrity.
Sometimes it can be awkward to stand for what you believe rather than
what others want to hear.If you do stick with it though, remember it's a commitment for the long haul.You can't switch integrity on and off when it suits.
If you make the commitment though, you are hugely more likely to
succeed, but whatever happens, your head will be held high and proud,
from being true to yourself with integrity!


Wednesday, June 28, 2006

Thank You

"Thank you." So good to hear. So simple to say. So, why are so many folks longing to hear it? There is little that goes further towards improving relationships than a genuine 'Thank you." You know that. Why, then, do so many folks have difficulty with it?

Are we moving too quickly to notice what others do for us? Do we just expect so much that we fail to acknowledge the little things? Is there some small part of us that refuses to give what we're not getting? You have probably heard "It's part of your/his/her job. It's your responsibility. " Sure, it may be. Does that mean that it does not deserve acknowledgment? You can bet it would be acknowledged if it was not done! Simply look and you'll find many things each day worthy of acknowledgment. Stop and appreciate what IS being done for you...and, say so.

Let's not be too busy, or too important, to stop, see, and acknowledge the contributions of others. And, once is not enough. Each time the garbage is taken out or the bill is paid, each time they bring you a glass of water or each time a subordinate does a good job, common say 'Thank you'. Appreciation is never wasted. Find things to acknowledge. Notice what others do well. Notice what others do for you. Offer your thanks. You'll feel better. And, very soon, it will come back to you. I promise.


Monday, June 26, 2006

The Test Of A True Winner

The test of a true Winner is how they act when they're NOT Winning.
How you manage and deal with adversity has a great deal to do with
whether or not you have the stuff it takes to be a Winner.
Afterall it's a very easy thing to be upbeat and positive when everything is
going the way it should.

But all true Winners have one main trait in common. They all have the
ability to stay focused and move forward when things don't go according to Hoyle(know what that means?). Your days won't ever be perfect; the AC won't always work, there might not be light when you get home after a very stressful day (for my pals in Lagos),car batteries do tend to die at the most inappropriate times and that check you expected in today's mail won't always arrive.

Hey, that's life in the big city. But the point is, the way you deal with these stumbling blocks is a huge determining factor in being a winner.
If you dwell on the stumbling blocks that life throws into your path
you'll never find the time to be a Winner. On the other hand if you
deal with them and move forward with a positive attitude you're well
on your way to being one of "Life's TRUE Winners".


Friday, June 23, 2006


A careless word may kindle strife
A cruel word may wreck a life
A timely word can level stress
A loving word can heal and bless.

Watch your words today!!!

Thursday, June 22, 2006

Honesty Is The Best Policy

Personally I hate lies, no, that's an understatement, I can't stand lies. However in the society we live today people talk and breathe lies. Here are some reasons why it pays to be honest, afterall honesty they say is the best policy.

1. Honesty means being authentic.
Honesty is a reflection of yourself and your true feelings. If
you want people to know who you really are, just be honest.

2. Honesty shows courage.
It takes an immense amount of courage to say what you feel. It
is difficult and takes practice and patience.

3. Honesty shows maturity.
Many times there can be hurt and pain associated with honesty.
A mature person can prepare for that and work through it with the
other person.

4. Honesty fosters a connection.
Honesty can bring people closer. It forms a bond, or connection
because the two people may be working with some very painful issues.

5. Honesty eliminates garbage.
Hiding true feelings or withholding information turns into
emotional garbage. Too much negative energy can be spent on
dishonesty. Being honest eliminates garbage and cleans out your
emotional tank!

6. Honesty will attract honesty.
If honesty is truly important to you and it's practiced
regularly, you will soon attract the same type of people into your

7. Honesty can keep you out of trouble!!
We all know how you can dig yourself in deeper with lies and
deceit. So don't even go there!! Start with a clean slate by staying


Wednesday, June 21, 2006

How Do I fulfill My Dreams?

Most times we have dreams that we never fulfill, some people even live and die with their dreams, well if you want to get started on fulfilling your dream,you have to beware of dream stoppers! Here are some of them.

Seeking approval and consent. Having support from people whose opinion you value is a wonderful thing, but it should not be the criterion for whether you fulfill your dream or not. If you really desire to fulfill your dream, constantly floating it around and seeking the approval of people will kill your dream. What will happen to your dream if you dont get the approval of those whose permission you need?

Waiting for a time when everything will be perfect and in place will kill your dream. Things will never be as perfect as you may want. You may never have all the money, time, or knowledge you desire to begin working on your dream.
You must take the risk, learn and improve as you go along and then watch as everything begins to fall in place. If you have to wait for the perfect time to begin working on your dream you will wait a very long time Perhaps for an eternity!I assure you. Don't wait until you have lost your enthusiasm and moved on to other things.

Many dreams remain unfulfilled because people don't have the time to work on them. If you have a dream, you have to be prepared to invest your time and resources to ensure it succeeds. Claiming that you have no time to work on a dream that is important to you is a procrastination tactic, which will kill your dream before it has a chance to see the light of day. You have to create the time for your dream in your schedule of life. There is always time to work on what we love.

Making up your mind about the importance of your dream and about all the important decisions around it, is a major step towards achieving your dream. Leaving things in limbo and being reluctant about making crucial decisions will choke your dream. Make up your mind and stop second-guessing yourself. When your mind is made upnothing can stop you from making progress with your dream.

Committing yourself to numerous projects and activities which are not connected to your main dream will choke your dream. It will confuse, overwhelm, sidetrack, and drain your energy. If you have to get started on fulfilling your dream, you need to plan for it and make it a priority. If you keep crowding and cluttering your life with what does not matter, you may never, ever begin to work on your main dream.

Remember that you can't do all things, but you can do one thing! That's for sure.


Picking Up The Broken Pieces...

Are you falling apart, overwhelmed, or stressed out as a result of the pressures of life...? You know the feeling too well, you feel tired of everything, overwhelmed and helpless. You may be going through such trying times, you feel blinded. The feeling you have is almost like falling into a deep, dark bottomless pit or a deep slippery hole with no grip to support or help you up. You think you are walking on solid ground but before you know it, the ground gives way and you are slipping and tumbling. You have had enough of this roller coaster and now you want to get back on your feet and STAND strong. Do you really want to pick up the pieces of your life and move on,
Then get started!

-Just be still

If you just cant seem to think straight and your mind is crowded with conflicting thoughts or questions whose answers you cant provide...then its time to be still!
There is amazing strength in stillness. Sometimes you just need to quiet yourself, be still in the moment and just be stuck. Why? Because you may not yet know what to do or you may not be in a state of mind to make decisions to take the next step.

- Pray

If ever there was a time to pray, this is it. Prayer changes things and belief in God can and will hold you up in such an amazing way when nothing else seems to work.
Prayer has the power to give you a supernatural resolve to face a new day with hope for a better future.Prayer also calms you down, alleviates the stress and helps you see things more clearly.

- Make a commitment to survive.

If you seriously want to pick up the pieces of your life, you have to commit to the process of getting your life together and dedicate yourself to making it happen.
Commitment means making a personal decision to vouch for your success and work for a better, healthier and well rounded you. It also means not surrendering to self-sabotaging attitudes, thoughts and habits that choke your will to pick up the pieces of your life.

-Talk to someone.

Dont be afraid to share your feelings with people who you can trust. People want to help you and support you. A word of comfort, a reassuring hug or an appropriate piece of advice may be just what you need. Reach out to someone you trust and talk about how you are feeling. Do not keep it all inside. Confide in trusted friends and family. Let out all the pain and the loss. Its okay to cry and then begin to see life beyond the tears.

- Count your blessings.

This may be a difficult thing to do, but the truth is that, whether we want to acknowledge it or not, there is always someone or something we are grateful for in bad times. Things could really be bad, but in the midst of that, blessings still abound. Dwell on those things that make you glad that you are still alive and not alone. Yes, look at the sunshine and SMILE!!

Don’t worry. Roses will bloom again!!


Tuesday, June 20, 2006

He Does Loves Us...

I woke up this morning feeling very low and I was thinking "what do I write today" while browsing through my mails, I saw this, a friend had sent it to me a while ago, it really lifted me, that's why I decided to put it up today, hope it helps somebody.

I asked God...

I asked God why I wasn't rich.
He showed me a man with the wealth of a thousand kings,
who was lonely, and had no one to share it with.
I asked God why I wasn't beautiful.
He showed me a woman more beautiful than any other,
who was ugly because of her vanity.
I asked God why He'd allowed me to become old.
He showed me a boy of 16,
who lay dead at the scene of a car accident.
I asked God why I didn't have a bigger house.
He showed me a family of six,
who had just been evicted from their tiny shack,
and were forced, to live on the street.
I asked God why I had to work.
He showed me a man, who couldn't find a decent job,
because he'd never learned to read.
I asked God why I wasn't more popular.
He showed me a socialite with a thousand friends,
who all left the moment the money and parties were no longer there.
I asked God why I wasn't smarter.
He showed me a natural born genius,
serving life in prison for making ill use of his knowledge.
I asked God why He put up with a thankless sinner like me.
He showed me His Bible.
He showed me His Son
who took my place at the judgment.
I knew then how much He loved me.

What's eating you today?
Are your problems weighing heavy on your heart?
Know, then, that you are loved.

Monday, June 19, 2006

Self Esteem

Self Esteem, how does one find it, low self esteem, how
does one get it?

Esteem, according to Websters Dictionary means to value,
appraise, estimate, to have great regard for; value highly; favorable opinion, high regard.
To have low self esteem is to not value, or have high regard for yourself. People with low self esteem never feel in charge of their own lives. They often feel like victims. They feel like outsiders, left out, unimportant, etc.. However low self esteem has two faces.
One is the personality that seems to always be the under achiever, the negative one, the one who says I cant, I shouldnt, I have to. The other face is the person who seems very confident, very opinionated, positional. All of this bravado is still a face of low self esteem. This type of person,is usually self centered, cant take criticism, instruction, or direction. They may be in leadership positions, and yet not be true leaders. This type of low self esteem will often deny that anything is wrong, because thinking they are in charge is their protection.

Now what is the face of true self esteem? Those with true self esteem are in charge of their lives. They take 100% responsibility for everything that happens in their lives. If relationships are not working in their life, they ask, what is it in me that is attracting this type of person or what am I doing to create this situation, instead of blaming the other person, if only they would, or could do this or that. If their finances are not what they desire, they ask what can I do to change this and they tap into their creative, intuitive side to do this. They do not waste time saying, there is never enough, if only I had a better job, if only, if only. They set about discovering why this is presently their situation. True self esteem values itself, it says, I can do, I can have, I can make my life what I desire it to be.
So today get in touch with your true self which is perfect in every way because it knows it was created perfect by a perfect creator. It is the false self that finds fault in who it is and lacks self esteem. Finding your Authentic or true self is the only adventure you cant afford to miss in life!

Don't you think so?


Friday, June 16, 2006

A B...Z

live by the letters

Athough things are not perfect
Because of trials and pain
Continue inthanksgiving
Do not begin to blame
Even when the times are hard
Fierce winds are bound to blow
God is forever able
Hold on to what u know
Imagine life without his love
Joy will cease to be
Keep thanking him for all the things
Love imparts to thee
Move out of "camp complaining"
No weapon that is known
On earth can yeild the power
Praise can do alone
Quit looking at the future
Redeem the time at Hand
Start everyday with worship
To thank is a command
Untill we see him coming
Victorious in the sky
We'll run the race with gratitude
eXalting God most high
Yes there will be good times and there will be bad times, but
Zion waits in glory where none are ever sad!
- author unknown

Isnt this beautiful?

Thursday, June 15, 2006

Who Is A Success?

A successful person is one who thrives on learning, attempting, and
reaching new goals. He is one who knows how to secure his future.
Are you a thriving person who goes beyond just getting by?
You have an attitude of abundance and are willing to share it.
A strong sense of self and a healthy self-esteem are integral parts
of your personality. The cornerstones of your foundation are integrity,
common sense, willingness to try, and persistence. Skills and talents
are recognized and utilized.Then you're a success!

You remember that Self-improvement is not just a word, it is a lifestyle.
You are a seeker of knowledge of all types. You absorb what you can from any
type of experience. All the senses are used to keep learning and growing.
You think like a reporter asking those famous questions of who, what,
when, why, where, and how. Then you're securing your future!

You are a thriving person who seeks challenges partly for the thrill of it but
also because the need and desire to push the boundaries and not have
limitations is important. What appears to be a risk to an outsider is,
as a rule, a well-thought out action plan. The popular expression for you
is to step out-of-the-box. Then you're a success!

With a thriving mindset, you are willing to put forth the energy and
effort for the desired effects. You act upon your thoughts rather than
just letting them simmer on the back burner. Getting up in the morning
is fun - you look forward to new opportunities. A feeling of positive
anticipation is the norm rather than the exception. Then you're securing your future!

As a person, you are one who helps to activate the necessary trigger points for others to join you in the ranks of happy, well-adjusted folks who enjoy each day as it comes. As the old saying states: What goes around, comes around. The more you share, the more you will receive. Thats a win-win, a real success!!

Start climbing the ladder of success today!


Tuesday, June 13, 2006

If You...

Your words, your dreams, and your thoughts have power to create conditions in your life. What you speak about, you can bring about.
If you keep saying you can't stand your job,
you might lose your job.
If you keep saying you can't stand your body,
your body can become sick.
If you keep saying you can't stand your car,
your car could be stolen or just stop operating.
If you keep saying you're broke, guess what?
You'll always be broke.
If you keep saying you can't trust a man or trust a woman,
you will always find someone in your life to hurt and betray you.
If you keep saying you can't find a job,
you will remain unemployed.
If you keep saying you can't find someone to love you or believe in you,
your very thought will attract more experiences to confirm your beliefs.
If you keep talking about a divorce or break up in a relationship,
the you might end up with it.
Turn your thoughts and conversations around to be more
positive and power packed with faith, hope, love and action.
Don't be afraid to believe that you can have what you want
and deserve.

Watch your Thoughts, they become words.
Watch your words, they become actions
Watch your actions, they become habits.
Watch your Habits, they become character.
Watch your Character, for it becomes your Destiny.

The minute you settle for less than you deserve,
you get even less than you settle for.

Friday, June 09, 2006

Thank God It's Friday!

Wow! Thank God it's Friday! Well does anybody feel like I do? I mean the week has been hectic and I can't wait for Saturday to do all my laundry and stuff and RELAX, I mean Rest! it's important you know.
I found this story in a book and it was really funny, would like to share, its called

Confused Child

A certain little girl, when asked her name, would say, "I'm Mr Sugarbrown's daughter"

Her mother always corrected her. "You must say, "I'm Jane Sugarbrown," the mother explained.

The following Sunday, the minister spoke to her in Sunday School and said, "Aren't you Mr Sugarbrown's daughter?"

The little girl replied, "I thought I was, but mother says I'm not"

Ha, talk about identity crises, but the truth is that most of us are really like that we don't know who we are.

Have a beautiful weekend, all of ya!


Thursday, June 08, 2006

My List

I can't believe it! I actually got tagged and guess who? by a belle, now isn't that cool!

Here I come!

Accent - beautiful! haha.
Booze - No booze. No alcohol either.
Chore I hate - sweeping, too lazy to do that.
Dogs/Cats - Harumph.hate both.
Essential electronics - My phone, that's all
Favourite Perfume - No Favourites. Once its designers, hey I go 4 it{when I have the money shaa}
Gold/Silver - Both, I guess.
Insomnia - hate it.
Job Title - Marketing officer.
Kids - None now but I’d love three {a twin? YAP+1}.
Most admired trait - MY NOSE, hm, very very cute, {I think God knew I will have a penchant for pointed nose, so he gave me one!)
living arrangement- living big, whatever thats supposed to mean
Overnight hospital stays - None
Phobia - heights I guess.
Quote - “lies are not counterclaimed, they are rather highlighted, I cannot therefore give dignity to a lie by a reply" YES!
Religion - Christian
Siblings - lots and lots of them!
Time I usually awake - 5.30am on the average.
Unusual talent - The ability to say yes when ur expecting a no, or isnt that an unusual talent, means u cant figure me out, haha!.
Vegetable I refuse to eat - EWEDU
Worst habit - inability to hold my temper and probably my tongue, no I think I can hold the latter when I really try, oh yes
X-rays - several, cant remember how many now, I always throw them away.
Yummy foods I make - Fried Plantain, Eba and vegetable soup mmm,what else? concortions.
Zodiac sign - Aqarius, a February baby

hey you're tagged! ebun and queen

Wow! These past two days have been terribly awesome, the sales training was very great, I mean I'm so happy that I was nominated to go for it, I learnt a whole lot, for example selling can be fun if you do it right, it's just about saying the right words and doing the right thing at the right time. Hey! am I actually giving this info just like that, I mean we paid! but quite seriously the two days were quite fulfilling even though I didn't get to blog! It's okay I guess, I'm right back again or as they say "back to the basis"

Tuesday, June 06, 2006

I'm off for a trainning today, guess it's going to be a hectic one, I just pray the trianing turns out interesting, can't imagine myself sitting all day long in a boring session, anyway before I leave, I'd like to leave you with this thought.



Monday, June 05, 2006

It's A Wonderful Day!

Hooray! Believe me, today is the most wonderful day of your life! You live in today; eat, drink, walk, talk, work and play today. Living today is not enough, make it a wonderful day for you. To make your today a wonderful day, get up from the bed early in the morning.Thank the good Lord for making you see another beautiful day. While brushing your teeth, brush away the unfounded fears about today. Look in the mirror and say: “It's a wonderful day".

Reaching your job place a few minutes before the start of work can give you the positive feeling of being ahead of others. Shake hands with your co-workers, smile and say good morning, I wish you a wonderful day.

Monday is the day when people have to push themselves to go to work. What a pity! Monday should be the most wonderful day for you. What can be more satisfying than the feeling that after a gap of two days, you are back to work. Enjoy your work. Be proud of your work. During the day, whenever your feel depressed just say the magical words “it's a wonderful day" and see how the depression melts away.Try it!

Make every effort to make today a wonderful day. Those who lived yesterday are sleeping in their graves, remember. Those who will live tomorrow, hm, we don't know. The only living day is today and it's a wonderful day for the person who knows the dignity and honor of today.

This is the day that the Lord has made,
Let us rejoice and be glad in it.

Thank God I'm alive and well, therefore it's a wonderful day!

Friday, June 02, 2006

Lessons From The Dandelion

Dandelions thrive despite the best efforts of people to kill them off. You can learn some valuable lessons from this sunshine flower.
This story is an excerpt from GLOW: Renew Your Spirit & Release Your Inner Beauty.

I recall as a young child bringing bouquets of brilliant yellow flowers to my mother. It didn't matter that the stems felt sticky or that both my parents cursed the presence of these flowers in the lawn. I thought they were beautiful!

And there were so many of them! We spent hours picking the flowers and then popping the blossoms off with a snap of our fingers. But the supply of dandelions never ran out. My father or brothers would chop off all the heads with the lawn mower at least once a week, but that didn't stop these hardy wonders.

And for those flowers that escaped the honor of being hand delivered to my mother, the horror of a childish sing-song game of "Mama had a baby and its head popped off" or the sharp blades of the lawn mower, there was another level of existence.

The soft, round puffs of a dandelion gone to seed caused endless giggles and squeals of delight as we unwittingly spread this flower across the yard.

As I worked in my garden last week, pulling unwanted weeds out of the space that would become a haven for tomatoes, corn, peas and sunflowers, I again marveled at the flower that some call a weed. And I thought, "If only I had the staying power of a dandelion."

If only I could stretch my roots so deep and straight that something tugging on my stem couldn't separate me completely from the source that feeds me life. If only I could come back to face the world with a bright, sunshiny face after someone has run me over with a lawnmower or worse, purposely attacked me in an attempt to destroy me. If only my foliage was a nutritious source of vitamins that help others grow. If only I could spread love and encouragement as freely and fully as this flower spreads seeds of itself.

I hope you and I can be different. I hope that we can stretch our roots deep enough that the strongest poison can't reach our souls. I hope that we can overcome the poisons of anger, fear, hate, criticism and competitiveness. I hope that we can see flowers in a world that sees weeds.

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Thursday, June 01, 2006

Your Poverty Graph

Do you want to know your poverty graph? You are poor if you:

- do not have a firm commitment with yourself to succeed

- do no set goals and follow them through.

- do not put your best efforts at work

- do not adopt a positive attitude and get rid of negative thinking

- are not strong enough to accept the challenges of day-to-day life

- are not ready to take any risk due to fear of failure

- do not appreciate the good work done by others

- do not help the people in need

- do not thank God for all that you have

The list goes on and on. Let me leave it unfinished and ask you a simple question. Do you really want to get rid of your poverty? The answer, you know the better!