Wednesday, December 20, 2006

Merry Xmas!!

Merry Christmas to all of you my wonderful friends, I really wish things were different here, but its okay, I'll make the most of the situation around here.I really miss you guys so much, you're all in my thoughts.

Keshi, pls do take care, May God be with you and see you through with whatever you are facing in your life right now. Love you girl.

And all of you, here's lots of huggggggggggs from me.

Untill I blog again, take care all of ya!!

Monday, November 20, 2006

Been a while, if any of you happen to drop by I'm reallysorry I might not be able to be blogging like before or coming around to your sites, I am under a terrible pressure right now, I've been given this outrageous target, I don't even have a clue how I'm going to make it, guys, its really tough.

You know I was thinking on how ironical it is that I wrote that post about making time for joy and how it is now I hardly have time for anything else in my life again. God help me.

So pls you pray for me if you happen to read this.
I miss you all so much and my blog like hell.

Azuka, hey I'm not on the run oo, na Naija wahala.

Monday, October 30, 2006

Making Time For Joy

Stop Putting Off Time For Joy In Your Life

As we speed through life, living on the edge at a faster and
faster pace, we need to stop and:

* review our values
* decide the direction of our lives and how we want to spend
our time, money and energy
* take care of ourselves and recharge our batteries. Hehehe!
* find time for peace and quiet
* make room for love in our lives

Have you put off time for relationships, hopes, dreams? Have
you put off time for fun, relaxation, joy?

If your life is moving at such a fast and hectic speed that
you're not enjoying it, then what are you hurrying toward?
What are you working to achieve? When will it get better?
When will you enjoy your life?

When you feel overwhelmed or so frazzled you can't find the
energy to do anything, that's when you need to make the time
to visit a friend, go fishing, meditate, take a
trip to the museum, go for a walk or even shopping!

Come on make time for yourself, cause you have only one life, don’t you ever forget that, so take care of it!

Thursday, October 26, 2006

Well its sure good to be back home again, men it was danmed too cold in the US, I wonder how you guys cope with that awlful weather, but then its danmed too hot down here, now what am I talking about which one do I really prefer; the cold or the heat? hehe!

Anyway I had a good time inspite of the cold, went to a couple of States, all in all it was a great trip, and the youth retreat which was the main purpose of the trip was just wonderful, we really had a GREAT time. We sure did!

Hey, has anyone of you been to Dubai Airport, my! that Airport is beautiful!, because we flew Emirates, we had to stop over at Dubai(transit} I just fell in love with that Airport, why shouldnt I shaa, who no like better things.
Once again I'm happy to come back to hot, disorganised and rowdy Lagos, hehehe! but its still home and there's no place like home.

I should start writing again next week, take care everyone oo!

Wednesday, October 25, 2006

Was tagged by Anthony which can punishment be this oo!

OK sha, Make I dey tag along!


1. Accounts officer

2. Marketing Officer

Hey, I never work reach four jobs oo!


1. Newscaster/Tv presenter LOL!

2. Pilot

3. Ambassador to a great Nation

4. President Of Naija, hey, talk about dreaming big.


1. Sandlot

2. Sound of Music

3. The Prince and the Pauper

4. Jane Eyre


1. Lagos

2. Enugu

3. Owerri

4. where else?


1. Todays Woman

2. News line

Any other crap, that sounds interesting.


1. Ghana

2. USA

3. Togo

4. My villa of course!


1. The blogspots

2. Unilagfaces

3. lifehacker

4. Almighty yahoo. hehehe!


1. Fried Plantain

2. Fried rice with chicken

3. Eba with vegetable soup

4. And all the junk food you can think of.


1. AMALA!!


3. Crabs, shrimps and all those what nots.

4. Brocolli


1. kooaid

2. Pizza

3. Suya, hmmm

4. Hot fresh fish peppersoup


1. Bed

2. Wardrobe

3. My big box

4. Flowers, flowers, flowers


1. A PC

2. Water bed {its damned hot down here)

3. A flouresent tube that never goes off (take note NEPA abi Power HOlding)

4. A ... you know what, hm-hm


1. A plain brown jacket

2. A flowered skirt

3. A pair of black shoes

4. What else, hm, what kind of question is this?


1. Hawaii!!!

2. My big sis Place ( i get to play with my little nieces}

3. New Zealand - beautiful sunset

4. A castle with prince charming


1. Hanging garden somewhere in Iraq or God knows where

2. Somewhere in my mind where no one can reach me.

3. The secret garden

4. Acapulca, is there any place like that, oh its supposed to be fictional, right?


1. Candy Christmas-my favorite singer

2. Good Old OBJ- Will have a good laughing day.

3. The Google boys-Always wonder how they made it.

4. The love of my life, who else JESUS!!!


1. When is this danmed tag going to finish

2. Hope I'm not just blabbling

3. Where the hell did the time go

4. Thinking about when...hmhmhm, you know what.


1. Books

2. Southern gospel music

3. Designer perfumes

4. Friends

Oh gosh, its finally over!!
Me I can't punish anybody again oo!
But shaa if you feel like "tagging" along, the floor is yours.

Thursday, October 12, 2006

hi Guys, I'm sorry I left without a goodbye, I am currently in the US, will be coming back next week, all updates then.
Do take care now all of you.

Friday, September 29, 2006

Naija To The Core

Check out this "ijebu" man.
A typical Nigerian if you ask me.

A young Yoruba man(Nigerian) walks into a bank in New York City and asks for the loan
officer. He tells the loan officer that he is going to Lagos on a vacation,
for two weeks, and needs to borrow $5,000. The bank officer tells him that
the bank will need some form of security for the loan, so the Yoruba man
hands over the keys to a new brand BMW 6 series. The car is parked on the
street in front of the bank. The Yoruba man produces the title and
everything checks out. The loan officer agrees to accept the car as
collateral for the loan. The bank's president and its officers all enjoy a
good laugh at the Yoruba man, for using an $80,000 BMW as collateral against
a $5,000 loan. An employee of the bank then drives the BMW into the bank's
underground garage and parks it there. Two weeks later, the Yoruba man
returns, repays the $5,000 and the interest, which comes to $15.41. The loan
officer says, "Sir, we are very happy to have had your business, and this
transaction has worked out very nicely, but we are a little puzzled. While
you were away, we checked you out and found that you are a successful
business man. What puzzles us is, why would you bother to borrow $5,000?"
The Yoruba man replies: "Where else in New York City can I park my car for
two weeks, and pay only $15.41 and expect it to be there when I return?"
The bank employees watch as he pulls out of the garage, windows down and sunroof
open. Juju music blasting from his car, as he pulled away. Yes OO!

Tuesday, September 26, 2006

Here Again

Guys, whao!! Its sure good to be here again, I missed you all sooooo much, I'm not really back, will be taking off again next week, hehehehe!

But really I'm doing great and my sense of humour is back 100%, I really had a wonderful time especially with my three little nieces, we ran around, tumbled and rumbled, Christ! I felt like a little child again.

My cousin is also doing great, he is his usual self again;handsome and smiling. Thank God, I guess men have a way of hiding their pains but he really was great. I had wanted to put up a picture of her, she looked so serene and pretty on the obituary,{she was just 35} that I felt so bad I didnt really get to know her better but that's life. I guess we learn everyday.

I'm sooooo very grateful to each and everyone of you for your supportive words, I really, really appreciate everyone of them. thank you very much. I will try to come around to your blogs and try to catch up soonest. meanwhile I LOVE YOU ALL!!!!

Thursday, September 14, 2006

A Time To Say Goodbye

Hi Guys,
I won't be here for a while after today, I need a break, there's so much going on around me especially in my office, so I need to get away from all this, call me a coward if you want but I need to run, I just hope and pray that by the time I get back the "storm" will be over.

Anyway I need this leave, I'm really stressed out and I think I need to rest, so I'm getting away from civilization to my rural village where I'll breathe fresh unpolluted air for at least two weeks, its been ages since i went there, I kind of feel bad that i'm going there now on a sad note; my cousin's wife just died, its sooo sad, I remember when they were dating as if it was yesterday, I did not really like her, she was that kind of girl who hardly smiles (aw, you're not supposed to speak bad of the dead)but my cousin was like my hero and I used to wonder what he saw in her, he was the exact opposite, if you know what i mean, but he loved her, it was easy to see that.

They finally got married a few years back (i wasnt at the wedding) so it was a shock when my mum told me she has passed away during a surgical procedure, they don't even have a baby yet, I feel so bad not really for her( i'm sorry about that) but my cousin, I know he'll be hit badly(why do bad things keep happening to good people)I'm really in a state of shock, i've not even been able to call him, I just want to see him face to face to know how he's taking it.

Please Pray for him.

So I guess its time to say my goodbyes to her and my last repect too.
I hope she's happy wherever she is right now. Death is a mystery!!!!

Tuesday, September 12, 2006

You Can Be Whatever You Please

What drives us to succeed? Is it the money, fame, or is it something deeper than this? And who deems us a success? Is it our friends, family or is it the intimate world we have created for ourselves? Hm. The answers to these questions can often be hard to find yet they are usually staring us right in the face.

It’s your choice

If it was your choice what would you do in life? Who would you be? What path would you take? Epictetus once said, First say to yourself what you would be; and then do what you have to do. In my opinion he was right! You can do whatever you want. Become whoever you please.

Its all about the choices that you make in life. Afterall success lies within you, just reach out and bring it out.

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Monday, September 11, 2006

Don't Live By DEFAULT, Live By DESIGN

Are you ready to create your life by design?

Of course, you may say, but just how do I do that? Aren't the circumstances of my life simply the way things are, you may ask? How do I influence what my life looks like? Well here's some food for thought then; are you someone who always says it is important to accept life exactly as it is? This, according to you, is one of the divine paradoxes of the universe, to be at peace, I must accept and embrace the current conditions and circumstances of my life, you say. Tell you what, you are living by default!

When you tell yourself that you have the power to create an entirely new and different set of circumstances and in truth, you are already creating a life experience moment by moment, and most importantly you are doing this consciously? You are living by design. Because you know that within you lies the power to change your life. You see, the main difference between living life by design and life by default is in the power of focus and attention. SIMPLE AND SHORT!!

So, create a vision for yourself and your life today.



Friday, September 08, 2006

Smile, You Are Loved!

YOU"RE WORTH A LOT TO GOD!!! I hope this will help somebody.

Does the thought ever sweep over you that you are not very important? Perhaps you feel that if you were to disappear off the face of the earth, no one would really miss you. Sometines I do, really.

Now, everyone has their bad days, But there are many people, and you may be one of them, who are sincerely convinced of their lack of value. Perhaps you feel that you are not as attractive as your friends. You may have a skin problem, or a weight problem, It could be that you are too shy to make friends easily, or that you feel you just don’t have what it takes to converse well with people. It is easy to focus on what you perceive as your limitations and to get the feeling that you are just no good.

What is the answer to all of this? The fact is, there is probably some truth in your personal assessment of yourself. True, when you are feeling down, you tend to exaggerate the negative and overlook the positive. No doubt, you fare as well as many others do in some respects and perhaps even excel in certain areas.
So what you need is to get a new perspective on value. Instead of evaluating how man looks at you, consider this: How does God look at you? Do you suppose that God loves the handsome, but rejects the plain? Does God love the talented few while having no interest in the ordinary majority? Does God favor the bright and energetic over the average and weak? Of course not!

And that, my friend, is precisely the reason you should not demean yourself. In God’s sight, you are of great worth. Since God chose to create you, in His sight you are of great value. God knows all about you. He created you with your special combination of skills, personality traits, appearance, strengths, and weaknesses. Do you know why? For His purposes and for His glory. God has a job for you to do, just the way you are. As you accept this and endeavor to do the best you can for Him, external factors will cease to concern you.God loves you just the way He made you...... the way you are!


Wednesday, September 06, 2006


Unfortunately, most of us need a little reminder every now and then about what is really important. Something will happen in our lives and we just sort of sit up, slap our foreheads stupidly, and say "OH MY GOD! Of course! I knew that, but I forgot that I knew that!"

The trouble is that we never know when that's going to happen and, when it does, it may be too late. If you lose a loved one in a tragic accident, how will you be able to say those things to them that you meant to say but never did?

My guess is that you probably don't have to think very hard to figure out your top priorities in life. Are you taking the time, however short, to think about it? And are you acting accordingly, spending your time and financial resources where it matters the most?

Always make sure that you keep balance and perspective in
your life. It's amazing how quickly 'important' things
can become unimportant.It's easy to work a lot when
you own a small business for example
(I'll bet you didn't know that) which makes it hard
to achieve that balance and perspective without
some conscious effort. Are your priorities in order?
Don't wait for that giant reminder to come
and slap you in the face. The next time you get angry with a
loved one, ask yourself if it really matters that much.

Have you ever watched "Mr. Mom", one of
Michael Keaton's first movies. In it, he loses his corporate
job, can't find another, and his wife (played by Terri Garr) ends
up going back to work for an advertising firm leaving him at home
to take care of the kids. She ends up working too much, so he
says these eight words to her.

Now I'm saying them to you:

"It's easy to forget what's important. So don't."


Tuesday, September 05, 2006

Lesson Of Life

Always remember this through the journey of life:
God bless you as you read on. Our lives are woven
together for a reason

A mouse looked through the crack in the wall to see
the farmer and his wife open a package. "What food
might this contain?" The mouse wondered - he was
devastated to discover it was a mousetrap.
Retreating to the farmyard, the mouse proclaimed the
warning. "There is a mousetrap in the house! There
is a mousetrap in the house!"
The chicken clucked and scratched, raised her head
and said, "Mr. Mouse, I
can tell this is a grave concern to you, but it is
of no consequence to me. I cannot be bothered by
it." The mouse turned to the pig and told him,
"There is a mousetrap in the house! There is a
mousetrap in the house!" The pig sympathized, but
said, "I am so very sorry, Mr. Mouse, but there is
nothing I can do about it but pray. Be assured you
are in my prayers." The mouse turned to the cow and
said "There is a mousetrap in the house! There is a
mousetrap in the house!" The cow said, "Wow, Mr.
Mouse. I'm sorry for you, but it's no skin off my
So, the mouse returned to the house, head down and
dejected, to face the farmer's mousetrap alone. That
very night a sound was heard throughout the house -
like the sound of a mousetrap catching its prey. The
farmer's wife rushed to see what was caught. In the
darkness, she did not see it was a venomous snake
whose tail the trap had caught.
The snake bit the farmer's wife. The farmer rushed
her to the hospital, and she returned home with a
fever. Everyone knows you treat a fever with fresh
chicken soup, so the farmer took his hatchet to the
farmyard for the soup's main ingredient.
But his wife's sickness continued, so friends and
neighbors came to sit with her around the clock. To
feed them, the farmer butchered the pig. The
farmer's wife did not get well; she died. So many
people came for her funeral, the farmer had the cow
slaughtered to provide enough meat for all of them.

The mouse looked upon it all from his crack in the wall with great sadness.
So, the next time you hear someone is facing a
problem and think it doesn't concern you, remember -
when one of us is threatened, we are all at risk. We
are all involved in this journey called life. We
must keep an eye out for one another and make an
extra effort to encourage one another.

Friday, September 01, 2006

Friday Jokes

Enjoy these Friday jokes

1. Wife: I dreamt you gave me $100 dollars last night for Summer clothes,
you would'nt spoil that dream now, would you dear?
Husband: Of course not darling. You may keep the $100.

2. A lawyer sent an overdue bill to a client with a note that said
"This bill is one year old"
By return mail the lawyer had his bill. To it was attached another note
"Happy Birthday"

3. For weeks a six year old lad kept telling his first grade teacher about the baby brother or sister that was expected at his house. Then one day the mother allowed the boy to feel the movement of the unborn child. The six year old was obviously impressed but made no comment, furthermore he stopped telling his teacher about the impending event.
The teacher finally sat down with the boy and said "Tommy, whatever has become of the baby brother or sister that you were expecting at home"
Tommy burst into tears and confessed " I think Mommy ate it!"

4. Teacher: What do you call someone who is always talking when people are no longer interested?
Student: A Teacher

5. Little Susie complained, " Mother I've got a stomachache."
That's because your stomach is empty," The mother replied, "You would feel better if you had something in it."
That afternoon the minister visited and in conversation, remarked he had been suffering all day with a severe headache.
Susie perked up. "Thats because it's empty," she said. You'll feel better if you had something in it."

Hallo Pals, have a very wonderful Weekend.

Wednesday, August 30, 2006

Forgive And Set Yourself Free

We remain emotionally and spiritually clogged when
we hang on to grudges, resentments and other negative

Are you holding any resentment toward anyone right now? If
so, your emotional and spiritual system is clogged. You're
devoting energy to a resentment, which is stealing energy
you could be applying to more productive things.
You might probably be saying, "But you don't know what this person
did to me!" That's true, I don't know. What I do know is
that your resentment or grudge is doing YOU no good at all.
Why hang on to something that makes you feel angry and

If you think your grudge is too hard to give up,
or perhaps the harm was intentionally inflicted?
Consider this story:

New York City Police Detective Steven McDonald faced a
situation in July of 1986. While on patrol in Central Park,
the then-29-year-old detective stopped some teenagers to
question them. While he was speaking to them, one youngster
(15-years-old) took out a gun and shot Steven McDonald in
the head and neck.

In the hospital, McDonald learned that he would be paralyzed
from the neck down for the rest of his life. He needs a
machine to breathe.At the time of the incident, McDonald
had been married only eight months and his wife was three
months pregnant. He was in the hospital for 18 months.But
after being released from the hospital, McDonald forgave
the young man who shot him.

McDonald said he needed to do that to free himself from
anger and resentment. Simply put, he needed to get unclogged
and to move forward on a mission to change people's hearts.
Steven McDonald speaks in schools about forgiveness and
nonviolent conflict resolution.

The chances are that whatever happened to you is nowhere
near as serious as what happened to Steven McDonald.
If he was able to forgive a person who shot him and
paralyzed him for life, can you forgive those who have
inflicted some type of emotional or physical pain on you?

Remember, you're doing this to unclog yourself, so it
doesn't matter if the other person accepts your forgiveness
or even knows about it. For that matter, the other person
could be dead. Forgive the other person and free yourself.

Give up the bitterness and get on with your life. This is
not always easy and there is no formula that applies to
everyone. Make the important decision to release your
negative emotions.As you reduce physical clutter and forgive
those you resent,you'll gain a host of benefits. You'll feel
more comfortable in your physical surroundings. Your health
will improve. You'll feel less stress. You'll see new
opportunities. Your whole life will open up in ways you
never imagined!


Monday, August 28, 2006

Time Means Money

"Time na money" If you happen to live around this part of the world, you would have probably heard this phrase a million times, means time is money, truth is whether you like it or not its a fact.

You know, if you're ever going to take control of your life and make it grand, you'll need to start by taking control of your time. Without question, effective time management is fundamental to succeeding in any area of life. In fact, it is often the main difference between life's achievers and those who, although always busy, never get anywhere.

Most experts agree that success is the result of habit. Therefore, the first step in improving how you use your time starts with your habits (self control). And your habits start as consciously made decisions (i.e. what time you get up, what kind of books you read, etc.

Once established, good habits become second nature. In many cases, success is not so much the result of doing the unusual, but rather the result of one's ability to "master the mundane." By consistently performing all of the little rudimentary tasks that are important, over time these activities transform into huge achievements.

Here's some simple rules to follow for better time management:

Don't procrastinate. Do it now. When people put things off, it kills momentum, slows achievement of current goals and restricts future opportunity as time is clogged up. The way to tackle procrastination is to set deadlines by which goals should be achieved.

Track your activities. Memory is a poor guide when it comes to assessing how you spend your time. A better way is to record your activities throughout the day, listing everything you do. Most people will find that they have about three hours each day that can be used in a more constructive or efficient manner. Take stock of the time you spend chatting on the phone, flipping though magazines or aimlessly surfing the Web, and eliminate all that isn't necessary.

Respond quickly. For example, take care of your mail as you receive it. Don't let those bills and letters pile up on you. If you're unable to respond to a letter immediately, file it in a special place that's visible, and note on the envelope the required action and date you intend to resolve it. When possible, act on requests the same day you receive them. Don't let your computer, your desk or your mind become clogged with useless things.

Be Decisive. Learn to say no to people. Your time is important, so don't let other people impose or use you to compensate for their poor planning. Eliminate distractions as much as possible. Close your door, turn off the ringer on your phone or simply ask not to be disturbed.

By following these tips, you'll create more space to be, do and have more in your life. Best of all, you'll approach life in a more proactive and intentional manner.


Friday, August 25, 2006

Hurray It's Friday!!

Well this is another Friday, and I'd like to close this week on a lighter mood, so enjoy these jokes.

The Silent Treatment

A man and his wife were having some problems at home and were giving each
other the silent treatment. Suddenly, the man realized that the next day,
he would need his wife to wake him at 5:00 AM for an early morning business flight.

Not wanting to be the first to break the silence (and LOSE), he wrote on a piece of paper,
"Please wake me at 5:00 AM " He left it where he knew she would find it.
The next morning, the man woke up, only to discover it was 9:00 AM
and he had missed his flight. Furious, he was about to go and
see why his wife hadn't wakened him, when he noticed a piece of paper by
the bed. The paper said, "It is 5:00 AM. Wake up."

Hehe! Know what?
Men are not equipped for these kind of contests.


A couple drove down a country road for several miles, not saying a word.
An earlier discussion had led to an argument and
neither of them wanted to concede their position.
As they passed a barnyard of mules, goats, and pigs,
the husband asked sarcastically, "Relatives of yours?"
"Yep," the wife replied, "in-laws"


A man said to his wife one day, "I don't know how you can be
so stupid and so beautiful all at the same time.
" The wife responded, "Allow me to explain.
God made me beautiful so you would be attracted to me;
God made me stupid so I would be attracted to you!

Married Life Is Full Of Excitement!!! hehehe!!!!

Enjoy Your weekend!

Wednesday, August 23, 2006

Let Go Of The Past

Have you ever walked by a
low fence and wondered why
the dog inside will run to
it, but won't jump over,
no matter how many times he runs to it
barking and growling?
The thing is that the dog was placed inside
the fence as a puppy.
He grows up seeing that fence as being higher
than it is. He learned as a puppy that no matter how many times
he tries to clear it, it's just too high. Over time he gradually
tries less often, until eventually he quits trying.
He just knows he'll never clear that fence.

The same thing happens to us over the years. We try to reach a goal and
fail.We muster up the courage to try again and fall just short of the mark.
Gradually that fence becomes higher in our minds, than it really is.
It's a gradual insidious process and we seldom notice it's happening.
Over time that fence becomes more imposing. Our efforts become a little
less enthusiastic. We start building fences in our mind and like that
little puppy we begin to break. We begin a new goal with so many doubts.
We just know we won't reach it, and so we don't. We start thinking to
ourselves, I knew I couldn't do it. Our doubts become a self fulfilling

But hey! It doesn't have to be that way.

Realise this: Our failures aren't us. Our limitations are nothing more
than fences we've built in our minds. The cycle can be broken, if we
could learn to stop thinking about our past failures and concentrate
on the here and now. Stop mistaking your past limitations for who you are.

Let go and move on.
Begin every task as if it were impossible to fail.
You can, if you think you can.
Wishing You Success.

Keep this in mind; you have the right to choose!

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Tuesday, August 22, 2006

A Choice Is A Choice

Not making a choice is a choice.

Letting things just happen in your life is a choice.
Not putting your definition of success into writing is
a choice. Accepting less than what you deserve, based
upon your effort, OR, lack of effort to achieve is your
choice. The list is endless.We are all constantly presented
with choices every day,we make hundreds of them. You can
choose to be someone who make things happen, or someone who
watch things happen, OR, you can choose to let things happen.
To me thats no choice BUT, it IS your choice!

At times, the only choice you may have is to choose your
attitude and how you will respond to the happenings around
you. To choose your attitude and how you'll respond to how you feel.
These choices are powerful because they allow you the
power to stay in control of our internal thoughts even if
you cannot control the external circumstances. So making
choices must be a conscious response.

Making choices, and being mindful of your choices, is
important because it helps you remember that you are the
only one responsible for the outcome of your actions. By
taking responsibility for making your own choices, with a
positive attitude in tow, you remove yourself from the role
of victim. How about that?
Now here are a few choices I've made

- To put a smile on my face no matter how I'm feeling on the inside.

- To be the best on my job and in whatever I do.

- To be the best Christian on earth.

- To be a real lady; cool, calm and collected.

- To be focused and pursue my goals in life with everything in me.

- To make sure I marry for love.

- To make honesty my best policy.

- To be a success in life.

What are your own choices? come on, make the choice to go grab yourself
a whole bunch of sunrises of opportunity!


Thursday, August 17, 2006

Do you ever wake up some mornings and
feel annoyed, sad, irritated, depressed
infact mad with whole wide world and yet
you don't know why you're feeling like that.
I DO... Sometimes I hate myself.

Tuesday, August 15, 2006

Share Your Blessings

You've probably heard of the popular saying "It's better to give than to receive." But do you actually know what hidden power lies in giving?

When you give something from your heart without expecting anything in return, you release a powerful force that will trigger your good deed to "bounce" back to you in amazing, and sometimes unusual ways.

Apart from earning the respect and love of your recipients. You know that you will always have a loyal group of friends who would help, protect, and do anything for you just because they feel that they have to repay you in any way they can.
However, this does not mean that you must expect them to repay
you. Give without any expectation of rewards. Don't do it
just because you have an ulterior motive. Give unconditionally.
Give because you are happy doing it. The universe will get
back to you in its own special way.

Speaking of happiness, the act of giving can summon the spirit
of joy to come into your heart. How would you feel when you've
given something to your less fortunate neighbors and hear them
express their most heartfelt gratitude and see their smiles
extend from ear to ear?.

And what about this "Giving is a healthy habit. It could
prolong your life by instilling within you an inner sense of
peace and accomplishment". Great, isnt it?

But just like all things in life, giving has its limitations.
Being too generous can have its toll. Your kindness might be
taken advantage of and people might abuse your good intentions.
Beware of individuals who are continuously seeking your aid.
It's better to teach them how to solve their problems than to
always attend to their needs.

As the saying goes ...

"Give them some fish and you'll feed them for a day. Teach them
how to fish and you'll feed them for a lifetime."

Now that you know how wonderful it is to give, would you go out
to the world and share your blessings?

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Thursday, August 10, 2006

Something Worth Doing

Many times in life, whether a thing is worth doing or not, really depends on how you look at it. Take up all your courage and do something your heart tells you to do so that you may not regret not doing it later in your life...

This is a true story.

Let the spirit of friendship in us not die.I guess this was something worth doing. But then, judge for yourselves;

Horror gripped the heart of a World War-I soldier, as
he saw his lifelong friend fall in battle. The soldier
asked his Lieutenant if he could go out to bring his
fallen comrade back.
"You can go," said the Lieutenant," but don't think it
will be worth it. Your friend is probably dead and
you may throw your life away. "The Lieutenant's words
didn't matter, and the soldier went anyway.

Miraculously, he managed to reach his friend, hoisted
him onto his shoulder and brought him back to their
company's trench. The officer checked the wounded
soldier, then looked kindly at his friend.
"I told you it wouldn't be worth it," he said. "Your
friend is dead and you are mortally wounded."
"It was worth it, Sir," said the soldier. "What do you
mean by worth it?" responded the lieutenant.
"Your friend is dead."
"Yes Sir," the soldier answered, "But it was worth it
because when I got to him, he was still alive and I
had the satisfaction of hearing him say...."Jim...I
knew you'd come."

Now don't you agree?

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Tuesday, August 08, 2006

For Love Or Money?

I was arguing with a colleague
about Love and money, he says
women only fall in love when the
guy has some dough to play around with,
I definitely diagree with him, but
he passionately believes it to be
true, so I've decided to share this
questions with all of you, "is it
possible for love to exist without
Please I need you guys to comment
on this especially the ladies
lets prove to this guy, that indeed love
can exist without money.
Who knows, maybe he's hurt cause
someone rejected him and he feels it's
because he's not rich enough, hehehe!
I told him I'm going to ask my blogging
friends and he agreed. So what do you think?

Monday, August 07, 2006

...So What's Your Excuse?

I'm not sure what the history
of "excuses" is, except to
know that a majority of the
time excuses equal some sort
of self-dishonesty. Infact
someone once told me that
an excuse is a well planned
lie. Period!

I think they're part of what we think we "should do" vs. being a "must do"! They come from us not being able to take our own "no's". They're what we say to people so that we "don't hurt their feelings". They are also what we say so that others
don't hurt us. Excuses are part of what we're tolerating in
our life that we know we shouldn't and yet feel we must rationalise it.

If we look it again one can say excuse is a self-destructive
alibi for having failed to do something, especially when it
involves attaining a goal. Instead of trying to persevere in
finding ways to continue achieving a goal, some of us resort
to excuses.Hm, the list goes on and on...

So what's your own excuse today?

A Word Of Advice:If you always have a lot of excuses, you should
strive more to overcome them because you'll be able to double your
achievement then. When the odds are greater, the prize gets much bigger.
After all the efforts you have exerted, the prize of success shall be
a well-deserved one. The fact is "QUIT GIVING EXCUSES" no matter how
reasonable you think they are.


Wednesday, August 02, 2006

Opinions...Or Facts?

If your mind was a huge, blank sheet of paper, what would you fill the space with? Would you use it to create positive or negative thoughts?

Using your mind as a blank sheet of paper gives you the chance to create new goals, and to reach for new heights. A blank page gives you an important guide that pushes you toward self motivation and inspiration. You can create a new beginning. It's your choice and not anyone else's. You can use it to erase any negative thoughts, feelings, or opinions.

When someone tells you you can't do something, can you separate the fact of their statement from their opinion?

Understanding that there is a great distinction between the two may decide your success or failure. How valuable is their opinion? What is the truth behind the statement? Being able to determine the difference between facts and opinions when you hear them is important. Always consider the cost of having someone else's opinion prevent you from doing something that is not based on facts. Do the facts out-weigh the opinions? Or, are the opinions more important than your desire to be the self you want?

This is like knowing that just because it's raining outside, it doesn't have to be a bad day. One is fact; the other is an opinion. Use this guidance whenever you find yourself hesitating to make a decision in your life. When someone gives you a negative opinion, you can accomplish more by not getting discouraged. Knowing that an opinion is nothing more than a comment of what, or how, a person feels and believes, is important because most of the time, it is not what they know that is true.


Tuesday, August 01, 2006

I am Thankful...

As we read this lets think about
all those that didnt live to see
1st of August 2006,like the people
who died in the many blasts around
the world this past month, here in
Nigeria a huge building collapsed last
week killing many. I'm grateful to be
alive and well, we sure do have a lot
to be thankful for.
Now don't we?













Friday, July 28, 2006

You Are Responsible

Something happened to a close friend of mine this week and I got to thinking about how responsible we are for actions we take, decisions we make, its funny but a small decision can actually turn ones whole life upside down. Josh Hinds mailed this story to me and I found it quite intriguing and decided to share.

Four brothers decided to have a party to celebrate a new business venture.
Since wine is rather expensive, they agreed
that each one would bring an equal quantity and
mix it together in a large serving bowl.

One of the brothers thought he might escape making his
contribution by bringing water instead of wine. "It won't be
noticed in the common bowl," he reasoned.

But when, at the party, the wine was poured out, it turned
out not to be wine at all, but plain water. All four
brothers had thought alike - cheap. Each one had thought,
"Let the other do it."

This is a lesson in responsibility,
You're going to have to be responsible for
your choices and decisions. Either that or turn your
life over to someone else who might not have your best
interest in mind."

- You have to be responsible for your finances.

- You have to be responsible for your health (mental &

- You have to be responsible for where you are in your

- You have to be responsible for the quality of people you
hang around

- You have to be responsible for all your choices - past,
present and future

If you're not happy with any area of your life, you are
responsible for fixing it. Step up - starting now!

Saturday, July 22, 2006

Letting Go Of Anger

Anger can make us feel good for a little while. When we are angry we are often feeling self-righteous, critical, judgemental and we have someone to blame for our own problems. However, anger can easily turn to hatred and this can lead to us doing and saying things we really did not mean to. It can also drain our vital energy and leave us feeling drained and washed out. Long term anger is likely to have a detrimental effect on our liver, adrenal and nervous system, experts say, not to mention our relationships with those around us.

If we can be honest with ourselves, what we are really angry about is that something has happened that we did not want to happen, or we did not get our own way, or things did not turn out the way we wanted them to.
It could be that we caught someone out in a lie and we became angry.
though at times people can make you real mad! oh yes.

But whatever the reason for our anger, we have to take responsibility for it, because we are the one who became that way. When we get stuck in anger, we can not see clearly the opportunities that are all around us all the time. We live in a big world full of choices and possibilities. When we become angry, we think that we know the way things should be and what is right and just.

To release our anger we need to be aware of a few truths

No one ever said that life was fair - sometimes unfair things do happen.
The only certainties in life are death and change. We live in a dynamic and ever changing world, so things around you are going to change.
When you accept change as a part of life you stop clinging to having things the same all the time and you can easily move on when change occurs.

If you loose your job, you see it as an opportunity to move on, meet new people and develop new skills.

If your partner leaves you, you have the opportunity to learn about yourself, your likes and dislikes, you have the opportunity to grow and develop and look after yourself. You can find ways to fall in love with life and living and then you will never feel lonely.

No matter what happens to you there is always opportunities around you. Sometimes horrible things happen, like the death of a loved one. If something like this happens we need time to grieve and then we must let go and move on and find ways to enjoy our lives again. It can seem tough and it is, but time will heal.

But for most things in life we simply need to take a deep breath, be prepared to move out of our comfort zones, and look around and embrace the new experiences coming our way. And then we do not have to be angry because something has not gone as planned. We will know that every supposed set back is an opportunity for us to learn and grow, to practice forgiveness and compassion and unconditional love.

When we can accept and embrace change, instead of reacting with anger, life really can become an exciting and grand adventure!

Wednesday, July 19, 2006

Please Let's Talk

One of the easiest ways to complicate our lives is in the area of interpersonal relationships, and the closer the people are to us, the more complicated it can get! Misunderstandings arise in the blink of an eye: a poor choice of words, an unconscious gesture, an incorrect interpretation, sometimes a deliberate attack. All of these cause strain on our relationships and stress on all the parties involved.

Open, clear - and immediate - communication is the key to maintaining the joy in relationships.So don't assume, talk about it. You know what that makes of U and ME!
When you're not sure, ask what the person meant. And even more importantly, when you ARE sure, still ask what the person meant. How many times have you been angry with someone, talked about it, and found yourself saying 'I thought you meant.'?

Don't Wait to Talk About It because the longer you put off talking about stress in a relationship, the more stressful the relationship becomes. The more you think about the small slight or hurt, you more you remember - or invent - big ones. And then, when that molehill becomes an erupting mountain... hey! the other person won't have an idea where it's coming from! So as soon as you realize something is 'off', talk about it.

And finally when someone asks what's wrong, don't say 'Nothing'.This is something a lot of us women do. I don't know why we do it, but we do, and by the way I am a genius at this! Tell you what if you are lucky enough to have someone who asks what's wrong, then tell them! They obviously care enough to want to remove the stress, so work with them on this one!


Monday, July 17, 2006

Words Of Wisdom And...

Many people will walk in and out of your life. But only true friends will leave footprints in your heart. To handle yourself, use your head; to handle others, use your heart.

Anger is only one letter short of danger. If someone betrays you once, it is his fault; if he betrays you twice, it is your fault.

Great minds discuss ideas; Average minds discuss events; Small minds discuss people.

He, who loses money, loses much; He, who loses a friend, loses much more; He, who loses faith, loses all.

Have a swell week, all of ya!!

Wednesday, July 12, 2006

Building Solid Foundations

When it comes to erecting a building, few people would dispute the importance of establishing a strong foundation. It's no different in building a business, a family or a life. The emphasis today is on instant gratification. But if we want to build something of value, something that will last, we must build a foundation that will support our vision.

The quick fix, the quick buck and the quick solution will not endure. The individual who shoots to the top of his or her field only to self-destruction is often the victim of not having solidified the values and the structure to support the stardom. It takes effort and it takes conviction, but the rewards are worth it.

Keep Your Eyes on What You're Building.

There was once a man passing by a construction site. He stopped and asked one of the tradesmen what he was doing. The worker replied gruffly, "I'm laying bricks, can't you see that?" The man watched a while longer and then asked another worker what he was doing. "I'm just earning a living," he replied. A third time the man asked a worker and the response was much different, "I'm building a cathedral."

No doubt the personal happiness and the quality of the work from the last man was much better than from the first two.And what about us? Are we just collecting a paycheck, doing drudgery work--laying bricks? Or are we building a cathedral?
By staying focused on what we're building and seeing the task at hand as accomplishing that purpose, we'll gain greater satisfaction, our work will be lighter, and we'll create more excellence.


Monday, July 10, 2006

Handling Rejection

Fear of rejection is one of the greatest fears shared by all human beings. Nobody wants to feel left out, unwanted or unliked.
And at the same time what we really want is to be loved and accepted by everyone - that would be bliss but it will never happen because we all have biases,opinions and beliefs that colorthe way we look at the world.Some people will reject us no matter how good we look, no matter how successful we are, and no matter how giving we are. If wewere to become even nicer, and even more spiritually aware theywould still reject us so it is a pointless battle trying to win over everyone.

However we can change how we think about rejection. If we change
the meaning of rejection it can become our ally instead of our
enemy. Next time someone rejects you why not take it as feedback
instead. That is, your approach did not work and you need to try
a new approach. In sales,for example, the salesperson must view rejection as
feedback or else she will slowly go insane!

So let us view rejection as feedback. When you are rejected
immediately set your mind the task of intelligently answering
this question - how must I change my approach to get what I want?
By doing this, you shift your attention back to what you can do
and off the other person whose approval is theirs to give or not
to give.

You may not realize, most people just give up too easily
because rejection feels so unpleasant. If you reframe rejection
to mean feedback it becomes a mental puzzle to solve instead.
You will then be able to endure the word *No* a lot longer. This
endurance will also encourage others to let you have what you
want because you just do not seem to take No for an answer!


Friday, July 07, 2006

Principles Of An Eagle

Eagles are one bird we all know that soar into the heavenlies, I've always been fanscinated with them, just saw these facts about them and thought it was really wonderful, enjoy!

- Eagles fly alone at a high altitude and not with sparrows or mix with other smaller birds. Birds of a feather flock together. No other bird goes to the height of the eagle. Eagles fly with eagles. Never in a flock. Even when Moses (Old Testament Bible) went to commune with God on the mountain, he left the crowd at the foothills. Stay away from sparrows and ravens. Eagles fly with eagles.

- Eagles have strong vision, which focuses up to 5 kilometers from the air. When an eagle sites prey- even a rodent from this distance, he narrows his focus on it and sets out to get it. No matter the obstacle, the eagle will not move his focus from the prey until he grabs it. Have a vision and remain focused no matter what the obstacle and you will succeed.

- Eagles do not eat dead things. He feeds on fresh prey. Vultures eat dead animals but not eagles. Steer clear of outdated and old information. Do your research well always.

- The Eagle is the only bird that loves the storm. When clouds gather, the eagles get excited. The eagle uses the wings of the storm to rise and is pushed up higher. Once it finds the wing of the storm, the eagle stops flapping and uses the pressure of the raging storm to soar the clouds and glide. This gives the eagle an opportunity to rest its wings. In the meantime all the other birds hide in the leaves and branches of the trees. We can use the storms of our lives (obstacles, trouble, etc) to rise to greater heights. Achievers relish challenges and use them profitably.

- When the Eagle grows old, his feathers become weak and cannot take him as fast as he should. When he feels weak and about to die, he retires to a place far away in the rocks. While there, he plucks out every feather on his body until he is completely bare. He stays in this hiding place until he has grown new feathers, then he can come out. We occasionally need to shed off old habits & items that burden us without adding to our lives...

Have a great weekend all of ya!!


Wednesday, July 05, 2006

You Still Have Hope

If you can look at the sunset and smile, then you still have hope.
If you can find beauty in the colors of a small flower, then you still have hope.
If the smile of a child can still warm your heart, then you still have hope.
If you can see the good in other people, then you still have hope.
If the sight of a rainbow still makes you stop and stare in wonder, then you still have hope.
If the soft fur of a favored pet still feels pleasant under your fingertips, then you still have hope.
If you still offer your hand in friendship to others that have touched your life, then you still have hope.
If receiving an unexpected card or letter still brings a pleasant surprise, then you still have hope.
If the suffering of others still fills you with pain and frustration, then you still have hope.
If you refuse to let a friendship die, or accept that it must end, then you still have hope.
If you can look to the past and smile, then you still have hope.
If, when faced with the bad, when told everything is futile, you can still look up and end the conversation with the phrase..."yeah...BUT.," then you still have hope.

Hope is such a marvelous thing. It bends, it twists, it sometimes hides, but rarely does it break. It sustains us when nothing else can. It gives us reason to continue and courage to move ahead, when we tell ourselves we'd rather give in.

Hope puts a smile on our face
when the heart cannot manage.
Hope puts our feet on the path when our eyes cannot see it.
Hope moves us to act
when our souls are confused of the direction.

Hope is a wonderful thing, something to be cherished and nurtured, and something that will refresh us in return.
And it can be found in each of us, and it can bring light into the darkest of places.



Monday, July 03, 2006

You are My Heroes

Sometimes in life, you find a special friend;
Someone who changes your life
just by being part of it.
Someone who makes you laugh
until you can't stop;
Someone who makes you believe
that there really is good in the world.
Someone who convinces you
that there really is an unlocked door
just waiting for you to open it.
This is Forever Friendship.

This rose is for all my friends.

All of you who keep puting smiles on my face.
All of you that've believed in me even
when I did not believe in myself.
Thank you for being there for me.
Thank you for being my friends.
I love you all.



Friday, June 30, 2006



All covered by the fluffy cushion of integrity.

Treat others as you'd like to be treated yourself, and you won't go far
wrong.If you are treating others in a way that you would'nt accept for yourself,
you are not operating from a position of integrity.
So that's a very brief but effective guide when it comes to dealing with
other people.

How about dealing with yourself, do you follow it then?

It's an important point.
All too often we let ourselves down.
We fail to go the extra mile for ourselves.
We settle for what we know to be second best.
It's easy to do, I know because I've done it.
We all want an easy life, don't we, so why push ourselves when we don't
have to? Integrity, that's why!

Don't get to a stage in life where you look back and realise you were'nt
true to yourself.This applies just as importantly to goal setting.
If you set goals which you think will impress others, or you set goals
which you don't truly desire, you have absolutely no chance of seeing them come true.
This is because you will not be equipped with a foundation of belief in
yourself and the goals, a foundation that drives you to do whatever it takes.
Especially when the going gets tough. Like a lot of the important ideas in life, it is'nt always easy to stick with your integrity.
Sometimes it can be awkward to stand for what you believe rather than
what others want to hear.If you do stick with it though, remember it's a commitment for the long haul.You can't switch integrity on and off when it suits.
If you make the commitment though, you are hugely more likely to
succeed, but whatever happens, your head will be held high and proud,
from being true to yourself with integrity!


Wednesday, June 28, 2006

Thank You

"Thank you." So good to hear. So simple to say. So, why are so many folks longing to hear it? There is little that goes further towards improving relationships than a genuine 'Thank you." You know that. Why, then, do so many folks have difficulty with it?

Are we moving too quickly to notice what others do for us? Do we just expect so much that we fail to acknowledge the little things? Is there some small part of us that refuses to give what we're not getting? You have probably heard "It's part of your/his/her job. It's your responsibility. " Sure, it may be. Does that mean that it does not deserve acknowledgment? You can bet it would be acknowledged if it was not done! Simply look and you'll find many things each day worthy of acknowledgment. Stop and appreciate what IS being done for you...and, say so.

Let's not be too busy, or too important, to stop, see, and acknowledge the contributions of others. And, once is not enough. Each time the garbage is taken out or the bill is paid, each time they bring you a glass of water or each time a subordinate does a good job, common say 'Thank you'. Appreciation is never wasted. Find things to acknowledge. Notice what others do well. Notice what others do for you. Offer your thanks. You'll feel better. And, very soon, it will come back to you. I promise.


Monday, June 26, 2006

The Test Of A True Winner

The test of a true Winner is how they act when they're NOT Winning.
How you manage and deal with adversity has a great deal to do with
whether or not you have the stuff it takes to be a Winner.
Afterall it's a very easy thing to be upbeat and positive when everything is
going the way it should.

But all true Winners have one main trait in common. They all have the
ability to stay focused and move forward when things don't go according to Hoyle(know what that means?). Your days won't ever be perfect; the AC won't always work, there might not be light when you get home after a very stressful day (for my pals in Lagos),car batteries do tend to die at the most inappropriate times and that check you expected in today's mail won't always arrive.

Hey, that's life in the big city. But the point is, the way you deal with these stumbling blocks is a huge determining factor in being a winner.
If you dwell on the stumbling blocks that life throws into your path
you'll never find the time to be a Winner. On the other hand if you
deal with them and move forward with a positive attitude you're well
on your way to being one of "Life's TRUE Winners".


Friday, June 23, 2006


A careless word may kindle strife
A cruel word may wreck a life
A timely word can level stress
A loving word can heal and bless.

Watch your words today!!!

Thursday, June 22, 2006

Honesty Is The Best Policy

Personally I hate lies, no, that's an understatement, I can't stand lies. However in the society we live today people talk and breathe lies. Here are some reasons why it pays to be honest, afterall honesty they say is the best policy.

1. Honesty means being authentic.
Honesty is a reflection of yourself and your true feelings. If
you want people to know who you really are, just be honest.

2. Honesty shows courage.
It takes an immense amount of courage to say what you feel. It
is difficult and takes practice and patience.

3. Honesty shows maturity.
Many times there can be hurt and pain associated with honesty.
A mature person can prepare for that and work through it with the
other person.

4. Honesty fosters a connection.
Honesty can bring people closer. It forms a bond, or connection
because the two people may be working with some very painful issues.

5. Honesty eliminates garbage.
Hiding true feelings or withholding information turns into
emotional garbage. Too much negative energy can be spent on
dishonesty. Being honest eliminates garbage and cleans out your
emotional tank!

6. Honesty will attract honesty.
If honesty is truly important to you and it's practiced
regularly, you will soon attract the same type of people into your

7. Honesty can keep you out of trouble!!
We all know how you can dig yourself in deeper with lies and
deceit. So don't even go there!! Start with a clean slate by staying


Wednesday, June 21, 2006

How Do I fulfill My Dreams?

Most times we have dreams that we never fulfill, some people even live and die with their dreams, well if you want to get started on fulfilling your dream,you have to beware of dream stoppers! Here are some of them.

Seeking approval and consent. Having support from people whose opinion you value is a wonderful thing, but it should not be the criterion for whether you fulfill your dream or not. If you really desire to fulfill your dream, constantly floating it around and seeking the approval of people will kill your dream. What will happen to your dream if you dont get the approval of those whose permission you need?

Waiting for a time when everything will be perfect and in place will kill your dream. Things will never be as perfect as you may want. You may never have all the money, time, or knowledge you desire to begin working on your dream.
You must take the risk, learn and improve as you go along and then watch as everything begins to fall in place. If you have to wait for the perfect time to begin working on your dream you will wait a very long time Perhaps for an eternity!I assure you. Don't wait until you have lost your enthusiasm and moved on to other things.

Many dreams remain unfulfilled because people don't have the time to work on them. If you have a dream, you have to be prepared to invest your time and resources to ensure it succeeds. Claiming that you have no time to work on a dream that is important to you is a procrastination tactic, which will kill your dream before it has a chance to see the light of day. You have to create the time for your dream in your schedule of life. There is always time to work on what we love.

Making up your mind about the importance of your dream and about all the important decisions around it, is a major step towards achieving your dream. Leaving things in limbo and being reluctant about making crucial decisions will choke your dream. Make up your mind and stop second-guessing yourself. When your mind is made upnothing can stop you from making progress with your dream.

Committing yourself to numerous projects and activities which are not connected to your main dream will choke your dream. It will confuse, overwhelm, sidetrack, and drain your energy. If you have to get started on fulfilling your dream, you need to plan for it and make it a priority. If you keep crowding and cluttering your life with what does not matter, you may never, ever begin to work on your main dream.

Remember that you can't do all things, but you can do one thing! That's for sure.


Picking Up The Broken Pieces...

Are you falling apart, overwhelmed, or stressed out as a result of the pressures of life...? You know the feeling too well, you feel tired of everything, overwhelmed and helpless. You may be going through such trying times, you feel blinded. The feeling you have is almost like falling into a deep, dark bottomless pit or a deep slippery hole with no grip to support or help you up. You think you are walking on solid ground but before you know it, the ground gives way and you are slipping and tumbling. You have had enough of this roller coaster and now you want to get back on your feet and STAND strong. Do you really want to pick up the pieces of your life and move on,
Then get started!

-Just be still

If you just cant seem to think straight and your mind is crowded with conflicting thoughts or questions whose answers you cant provide...then its time to be still!
There is amazing strength in stillness. Sometimes you just need to quiet yourself, be still in the moment and just be stuck. Why? Because you may not yet know what to do or you may not be in a state of mind to make decisions to take the next step.

- Pray

If ever there was a time to pray, this is it. Prayer changes things and belief in God can and will hold you up in such an amazing way when nothing else seems to work.
Prayer has the power to give you a supernatural resolve to face a new day with hope for a better future.Prayer also calms you down, alleviates the stress and helps you see things more clearly.

- Make a commitment to survive.

If you seriously want to pick up the pieces of your life, you have to commit to the process of getting your life together and dedicate yourself to making it happen.
Commitment means making a personal decision to vouch for your success and work for a better, healthier and well rounded you. It also means not surrendering to self-sabotaging attitudes, thoughts and habits that choke your will to pick up the pieces of your life.

-Talk to someone.

Dont be afraid to share your feelings with people who you can trust. People want to help you and support you. A word of comfort, a reassuring hug or an appropriate piece of advice may be just what you need. Reach out to someone you trust and talk about how you are feeling. Do not keep it all inside. Confide in trusted friends and family. Let out all the pain and the loss. Its okay to cry and then begin to see life beyond the tears.

- Count your blessings.

This may be a difficult thing to do, but the truth is that, whether we want to acknowledge it or not, there is always someone or something we are grateful for in bad times. Things could really be bad, but in the midst of that, blessings still abound. Dwell on those things that make you glad that you are still alive and not alone. Yes, look at the sunshine and SMILE!!

Don’t worry. Roses will bloom again!!


Tuesday, June 20, 2006

He Does Loves Us...

I woke up this morning feeling very low and I was thinking "what do I write today" while browsing through my mails, I saw this, a friend had sent it to me a while ago, it really lifted me, that's why I decided to put it up today, hope it helps somebody.

I asked God...

I asked God why I wasn't rich.
He showed me a man with the wealth of a thousand kings,
who was lonely, and had no one to share it with.
I asked God why I wasn't beautiful.
He showed me a woman more beautiful than any other,
who was ugly because of her vanity.
I asked God why He'd allowed me to become old.
He showed me a boy of 16,
who lay dead at the scene of a car accident.
I asked God why I didn't have a bigger house.
He showed me a family of six,
who had just been evicted from their tiny shack,
and were forced, to live on the street.
I asked God why I had to work.
He showed me a man, who couldn't find a decent job,
because he'd never learned to read.
I asked God why I wasn't more popular.
He showed me a socialite with a thousand friends,
who all left the moment the money and parties were no longer there.
I asked God why I wasn't smarter.
He showed me a natural born genius,
serving life in prison for making ill use of his knowledge.
I asked God why He put up with a thankless sinner like me.
He showed me His Bible.
He showed me His Son
who took my place at the judgment.
I knew then how much He loved me.

What's eating you today?
Are your problems weighing heavy on your heart?
Know, then, that you are loved.

Monday, June 19, 2006

Self Esteem

Self Esteem, how does one find it, low self esteem, how
does one get it?

Esteem, according to Websters Dictionary means to value,
appraise, estimate, to have great regard for; value highly; favorable opinion, high regard.
To have low self esteem is to not value, or have high regard for yourself. People with low self esteem never feel in charge of their own lives. They often feel like victims. They feel like outsiders, left out, unimportant, etc.. However low self esteem has two faces.
One is the personality that seems to always be the under achiever, the negative one, the one who says I cant, I shouldnt, I have to. The other face is the person who seems very confident, very opinionated, positional. All of this bravado is still a face of low self esteem. This type of person,is usually self centered, cant take criticism, instruction, or direction. They may be in leadership positions, and yet not be true leaders. This type of low self esteem will often deny that anything is wrong, because thinking they are in charge is their protection.

Now what is the face of true self esteem? Those with true self esteem are in charge of their lives. They take 100% responsibility for everything that happens in their lives. If relationships are not working in their life, they ask, what is it in me that is attracting this type of person or what am I doing to create this situation, instead of blaming the other person, if only they would, or could do this or that. If their finances are not what they desire, they ask what can I do to change this and they tap into their creative, intuitive side to do this. They do not waste time saying, there is never enough, if only I had a better job, if only, if only. They set about discovering why this is presently their situation. True self esteem values itself, it says, I can do, I can have, I can make my life what I desire it to be.
So today get in touch with your true self which is perfect in every way because it knows it was created perfect by a perfect creator. It is the false self that finds fault in who it is and lacks self esteem. Finding your Authentic or true self is the only adventure you cant afford to miss in life!

Don't you think so?


Friday, June 16, 2006

A B...Z

live by the letters

Athough things are not perfect
Because of trials and pain
Continue inthanksgiving
Do not begin to blame
Even when the times are hard
Fierce winds are bound to blow
God is forever able
Hold on to what u know
Imagine life without his love
Joy will cease to be
Keep thanking him for all the things
Love imparts to thee
Move out of "camp complaining"
No weapon that is known
On earth can yeild the power
Praise can do alone
Quit looking at the future
Redeem the time at Hand
Start everyday with worship
To thank is a command
Untill we see him coming
Victorious in the sky
We'll run the race with gratitude
eXalting God most high
Yes there will be good times and there will be bad times, but
Zion waits in glory where none are ever sad!
- author unknown

Isnt this beautiful?

Thursday, June 15, 2006

Who Is A Success?

A successful person is one who thrives on learning, attempting, and
reaching new goals. He is one who knows how to secure his future.
Are you a thriving person who goes beyond just getting by?
You have an attitude of abundance and are willing to share it.
A strong sense of self and a healthy self-esteem are integral parts
of your personality. The cornerstones of your foundation are integrity,
common sense, willingness to try, and persistence. Skills and talents
are recognized and utilized.Then you're a success!

You remember that Self-improvement is not just a word, it is a lifestyle.
You are a seeker of knowledge of all types. You absorb what you can from any
type of experience. All the senses are used to keep learning and growing.
You think like a reporter asking those famous questions of who, what,
when, why, where, and how. Then you're securing your future!

You are a thriving person who seeks challenges partly for the thrill of it but
also because the need and desire to push the boundaries and not have
limitations is important. What appears to be a risk to an outsider is,
as a rule, a well-thought out action plan. The popular expression for you
is to step out-of-the-box. Then you're a success!

With a thriving mindset, you are willing to put forth the energy and
effort for the desired effects. You act upon your thoughts rather than
just letting them simmer on the back burner. Getting up in the morning
is fun - you look forward to new opportunities. A feeling of positive
anticipation is the norm rather than the exception. Then you're securing your future!

As a person, you are one who helps to activate the necessary trigger points for others to join you in the ranks of happy, well-adjusted folks who enjoy each day as it comes. As the old saying states: What goes around, comes around. The more you share, the more you will receive. Thats a win-win, a real success!!

Start climbing the ladder of success today!


Tuesday, June 13, 2006

If You...

Your words, your dreams, and your thoughts have power to create conditions in your life. What you speak about, you can bring about.
If you keep saying you can't stand your job,
you might lose your job.
If you keep saying you can't stand your body,
your body can become sick.
If you keep saying you can't stand your car,
your car could be stolen or just stop operating.
If you keep saying you're broke, guess what?
You'll always be broke.
If you keep saying you can't trust a man or trust a woman,
you will always find someone in your life to hurt and betray you.
If you keep saying you can't find a job,
you will remain unemployed.
If you keep saying you can't find someone to love you or believe in you,
your very thought will attract more experiences to confirm your beliefs.
If you keep talking about a divorce or break up in a relationship,
the you might end up with it.
Turn your thoughts and conversations around to be more
positive and power packed with faith, hope, love and action.
Don't be afraid to believe that you can have what you want
and deserve.

Watch your Thoughts, they become words.
Watch your words, they become actions
Watch your actions, they become habits.
Watch your Habits, they become character.
Watch your Character, for it becomes your Destiny.

The minute you settle for less than you deserve,
you get even less than you settle for.

Friday, June 09, 2006

Thank God It's Friday!

Wow! Thank God it's Friday! Well does anybody feel like I do? I mean the week has been hectic and I can't wait for Saturday to do all my laundry and stuff and RELAX, I mean Rest! it's important you know.
I found this story in a book and it was really funny, would like to share, its called

Confused Child

A certain little girl, when asked her name, would say, "I'm Mr Sugarbrown's daughter"

Her mother always corrected her. "You must say, "I'm Jane Sugarbrown," the mother explained.

The following Sunday, the minister spoke to her in Sunday School and said, "Aren't you Mr Sugarbrown's daughter?"

The little girl replied, "I thought I was, but mother says I'm not"

Ha, talk about identity crises, but the truth is that most of us are really like that we don't know who we are.

Have a beautiful weekend, all of ya!


Thursday, June 08, 2006

My List

I can't believe it! I actually got tagged and guess who? by a belle, now isn't that cool!

Here I come!

Accent - beautiful! haha.
Booze - No booze. No alcohol either.
Chore I hate - sweeping, too lazy to do that.
Dogs/Cats - Harumph.hate both.
Essential electronics - My phone, that's all
Favourite Perfume - No Favourites. Once its designers, hey I go 4 it{when I have the money shaa}
Gold/Silver - Both, I guess.
Insomnia - hate it.
Job Title - Marketing officer.
Kids - None now but I’d love three {a twin? YAP+1}.
Most admired trait - MY NOSE, hm, very very cute, {I think God knew I will have a penchant for pointed nose, so he gave me one!)
living arrangement- living big, whatever thats supposed to mean
Overnight hospital stays - None
Phobia - heights I guess.
Quote - “lies are not counterclaimed, they are rather highlighted, I cannot therefore give dignity to a lie by a reply" YES!
Religion - Christian
Siblings - lots and lots of them!
Time I usually awake - 5.30am on the average.
Unusual talent - The ability to say yes when ur expecting a no, or isnt that an unusual talent, means u cant figure me out, haha!.
Vegetable I refuse to eat - EWEDU
Worst habit - inability to hold my temper and probably my tongue, no I think I can hold the latter when I really try, oh yes
X-rays - several, cant remember how many now, I always throw them away.
Yummy foods I make - Fried Plantain, Eba and vegetable soup mmm,what else? concortions.
Zodiac sign - Aqarius, a February baby

hey you're tagged! ebun and queen

Wow! These past two days have been terribly awesome, the sales training was very great, I mean I'm so happy that I was nominated to go for it, I learnt a whole lot, for example selling can be fun if you do it right, it's just about saying the right words and doing the right thing at the right time. Hey! am I actually giving this info just like that, I mean we paid! but quite seriously the two days were quite fulfilling even though I didn't get to blog! It's okay I guess, I'm right back again or as they say "back to the basis"

Tuesday, June 06, 2006

I'm off for a trainning today, guess it's going to be a hectic one, I just pray the trianing turns out interesting, can't imagine myself sitting all day long in a boring session, anyway before I leave, I'd like to leave you with this thought.



Monday, June 05, 2006

It's A Wonderful Day!

Hooray! Believe me, today is the most wonderful day of your life! You live in today; eat, drink, walk, talk, work and play today. Living today is not enough, make it a wonderful day for you. To make your today a wonderful day, get up from the bed early in the morning.Thank the good Lord for making you see another beautiful day. While brushing your teeth, brush away the unfounded fears about today. Look in the mirror and say: “It's a wonderful day".

Reaching your job place a few minutes before the start of work can give you the positive feeling of being ahead of others. Shake hands with your co-workers, smile and say good morning, I wish you a wonderful day.

Monday is the day when people have to push themselves to go to work. What a pity! Monday should be the most wonderful day for you. What can be more satisfying than the feeling that after a gap of two days, you are back to work. Enjoy your work. Be proud of your work. During the day, whenever your feel depressed just say the magical words “it's a wonderful day" and see how the depression melts away.Try it!

Make every effort to make today a wonderful day. Those who lived yesterday are sleeping in their graves, remember. Those who will live tomorrow, hm, we don't know. The only living day is today and it's a wonderful day for the person who knows the dignity and honor of today.

This is the day that the Lord has made,
Let us rejoice and be glad in it.

Thank God I'm alive and well, therefore it's a wonderful day!

Friday, June 02, 2006

Lessons From The Dandelion

Dandelions thrive despite the best efforts of people to kill them off. You can learn some valuable lessons from this sunshine flower.
This story is an excerpt from GLOW: Renew Your Spirit & Release Your Inner Beauty.

I recall as a young child bringing bouquets of brilliant yellow flowers to my mother. It didn't matter that the stems felt sticky or that both my parents cursed the presence of these flowers in the lawn. I thought they were beautiful!

And there were so many of them! We spent hours picking the flowers and then popping the blossoms off with a snap of our fingers. But the supply of dandelions never ran out. My father or brothers would chop off all the heads with the lawn mower at least once a week, but that didn't stop these hardy wonders.

And for those flowers that escaped the honor of being hand delivered to my mother, the horror of a childish sing-song game of "Mama had a baby and its head popped off" or the sharp blades of the lawn mower, there was another level of existence.

The soft, round puffs of a dandelion gone to seed caused endless giggles and squeals of delight as we unwittingly spread this flower across the yard.

As I worked in my garden last week, pulling unwanted weeds out of the space that would become a haven for tomatoes, corn, peas and sunflowers, I again marveled at the flower that some call a weed. And I thought, "If only I had the staying power of a dandelion."

If only I could stretch my roots so deep and straight that something tugging on my stem couldn't separate me completely from the source that feeds me life. If only I could come back to face the world with a bright, sunshiny face after someone has run me over with a lawnmower or worse, purposely attacked me in an attempt to destroy me. If only my foliage was a nutritious source of vitamins that help others grow. If only I could spread love and encouragement as freely and fully as this flower spreads seeds of itself.

I hope you and I can be different. I hope that we can stretch our roots deep enough that the strongest poison can't reach our souls. I hope that we can overcome the poisons of anger, fear, hate, criticism and competitiveness. I hope that we can see flowers in a world that sees weeds.

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