Everyone experiences tough times, that is just how it goes.
How you react to those times can change how your how your
family reacts to the situation and how
you feel physically and emotionally.
Tough times can be described by an isolated issue (low cash
flow) or a combination of issues (child in trouble, parents'
ill, low cash flow, mergers at work). It is easy to fall
into the trap of going into automatic pilot and reacting as
you always have.
The silent treatment towards everyone, the drama queen/king,
the pity party whine fest, or perhaps the stoic martyr. None
of these behaviors helps to resolve the issues, in fact they
just make matters worse.
Each of the behaviors described above are driven by self
centeredness. It is all about me, you see! The truth is the
issues aren't about you at all. You and only you are making
it about you.
Too often people only focus on what is going wrong in their
world and not about what is working right. The merger isn't
about you...its just business. Your child's trouble isn't
about you... its about him and his choices.
Your parents' illness isn't about you... it's about their
health and the communication clash is only about you because
of your own behavior towards your spouse, you can't change
them, only yourself.
So what can you do about tough times?
Let's talk about this tommorrow.