"Instead of spending your time thinking about how bad things
are, think about how good they will be!"
Everyone knows that a positive attitude is key to the
successful life. But what happens when things go wrong? What
happens when circumstances deal us a blow?
Life deals us setbacks, both minor and major, on a regular
basis, but if we are going to be successful, we need to know
how to deal with them and keep our attitudes intact!
I'm sure you are aware of what happens when you are going about your day and everything seems to be
going well, when out of nowhere disaster strikes. All of
your best-laid plans begin to tumble. Sometimes
circumstances surprise us and we react.
Unfortunately, this often compounds the problem because by
reacting we tend to operate out of our weaknesses instead of
our strengths. We make decisions that are not well thought
out. We function with a bad attitude that says, "I can't
believe this is happening!"
The next time circumstances turn against you, take some time
to just step back from the problem and think. This will
enable you to deal with the issue at hand rationally,
instead of emotionally. It will allow you to put your state
of mind back into its proper place.
A man was once asked how he was doing and he responded, "Pretty
well, under the circumstances." The other man asked, "What
are you doing under the circumstances?" hmm. Good question. but know what? We
shouldn't be under the circumstances, we should be focused on
the goal and moving forward.
Focus on solutions, not problems. The squeaky wheel gets the
oil, the old saying goes. Negative circumstances don't sit
idly by. They scream for our attention. When we face
difficult circumstances, we tend to dwell on them. We talk
about them, fret about them, and give them way too much
Instead of talking about problems, talk about solutions.
Instead of spending your time thinking about how bad things
are, think about how good they will be!
Don't let yourself complain when circumstances have got you against the emotional wall, get with a good friend who can encourage you.
Tell yourself the good. One of the greatest internal powers
we have is the power to control our thoughts. Spend time
dwelling on the good things about your life or job instead
of the problems. Think about positive things, things you
enjoy and give you a sense of happiness and peace.
There is an old childhood song that says, "Count your
blessings, name them one by one." That is great advice! Let
your positive attitude develop from within as well as from
without. This makes all the difference!