Friday, November 25, 2011

When Circumstances Are Down...

"Instead of spending your time thinking about how bad things
are, think about how good they will be!"

Everyone knows that a positive attitude is key to the
successful life. But what happens when things go wrong? What
happens when circumstances deal us a blow?

Life deals us setbacks, both minor and major, on a regular
basis, but if we are going to be successful, we need to know
how to deal with them and keep our attitudes intact!

I'm sure you are aware of what happens when you are going about your day and everything seems to be
going well, when out of nowhere disaster strikes. All of
your best-laid plans begin to tumble. Sometimes
circumstances surprise us and we react.

Unfortunately, this often compounds the problem because by
reacting we tend to operate out of our weaknesses instead of
our strengths. We make decisions that are not well thought
out. We function with a bad attitude that says, "I can't
believe this is happening!"

The next time circumstances turn against you, take some time
to just step back from the problem and think. This will
enable you to deal with the issue at hand rationally,
instead of emotionally. It will allow you to put your state
of mind back into its proper place.

A man was once asked how he was doing and he responded, "Pretty
well, under the circumstances." The other man asked, "What
are you doing under the circumstances?" hmm. Good question. but know what? We
shouldn't be under the circumstances, we should be focused on
the goal and moving forward.

Focus on solutions, not problems. The squeaky wheel gets the
oil, the old saying goes. Negative circumstances don't sit
idly by. They scream for our attention. When we face
difficult circumstances, we tend to dwell on them. We talk
about them, fret about them, and give them way too much
attention.

Instead of talking about problems, talk about solutions.
Instead of spending your time thinking about how bad things
are, think about how good they will be!

Don't let yourself complain when circumstances have got you against the emotional wall, get with a good friend who can encourage you.
Tell yourself the good. One of the greatest internal powers
we have is the power to control our thoughts. Spend time
dwelling on the good things about your life or job instead
of the problems. Think about positive things, things you
enjoy and give you a sense of happiness and peace.

There is an old childhood song that says, "Count your
blessings, name them one by one." That is great advice! Let
your positive attitude develop from within as well as from
without. This makes all the difference!

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Rebecca Tomkins said...

Hi,

I really enjoyed reading this post, I never go on blogs or make comments! But what you've said has really impressed me. I have a boyfriend whose pretty perfect and I'm always dwelling on his past which doesn't even affect us. I think this advice might help me to stop creating problems where there aren't any. Sorry for the randomness, just wanted to say thanks. Rebecca.

Holly said...

Thank you for writing this. Helped raise my spirits when they were down. Now on to focusing on the solutions and the blessings in my life!

ash_martin387 said...

Great post. We are definitely on the same page. People spend a lot of time dwelling on things and very little time changing the things that bother them and make them unhappy. In one of my blogs I refer to these people as having "I was dealt a bad hand" syndrome. Blaming others, holding on to the past and mentally blocking themselves from moving forward. I am all about positive energy and positive thinking.

Real Chick said...

Sometimes the solution is something negative but it has to be done anyway. The positive in those situations is hard to find. Like when someone you care about chooses to take you for granted and you have to cut ties. There is no real positive there. Just a mistake and how one has to deal with it.

piercings_in_places said...

Very good advice. I agree whole heartedly :)

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I think this is absolutely amazing! I am a psych major and I always try to promote positive thinking and tapping into our strengths instead of our weaknesses. Great post!

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