Rules Can Rule Our Lives

We all have values that we live life by, whether we live up to these values is determined by a series of rules that are attached to the value. For example, we may value success, and the rule that we have attached to success is that to be successful we must earn more than $1,000,000 a year. Another person may have a rule for success saying that if they wake up each morning then they are successful. Yet another person may have a complex web of rules relating to success that ensures they never are successful by their own rules.

Interestingly most of these rules are lodged in our subconscious and we are never really aware of them on the conscious level. So you can see that it is incredibly useful for us if we become aware of these rules. It is even more beneficial for us if we can become aware of these rules and then change them to ensure we meet our values.

When changing a rule it is important that you choose rules that are achievable, but also give you room to grow and move forward. So let's start by finding out what some of your rules are. Write out your rules for each of the following points. Remember,you are writing down what conditions need to be met in order for you to feel a success, a failure, or so on.
When you have written these down, write out what rules you would like to have for these.When writing out these rules be sure to put these into perspective.Your rules must be S-M-A-R-T.This means that your rules must be

Specific
Measurable
Achievable
Reasonable
Time-bound

Many of our rules are complex, hard to meet and often contradictory.

Understand that by defining these rules we can gain a valuable insight into the way our minds work, which allows us to take control of our lives.

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