Wednesday, July 19, 2006

Please Let's Talk


One of the easiest ways to complicate our lives is in the area of interpersonal relationships, and the closer the people are to us, the more complicated it can get! Misunderstandings arise in the blink of an eye: a poor choice of words, an unconscious gesture, an incorrect interpretation, sometimes a deliberate attack. All of these cause strain on our relationships and stress on all the parties involved.

Open, clear - and immediate - communication is the key to maintaining the joy in relationships.So don't assume, talk about it. You know what that makes of U and ME!
When you're not sure, ask what the person meant. And even more importantly, when you ARE sure, still ask what the person meant. How many times have you been angry with someone, talked about it, and found yourself saying 'I thought you meant.'?

Don't Wait to Talk About It because the longer you put off talking about stress in a relationship, the more stressful the relationship becomes. The more you think about the small slight or hurt, you more you remember - or invent - big ones. And then, when that molehill becomes an erupting mountain... hey! the other person won't have an idea where it's coming from! So as soon as you realize something is 'off', talk about it.

And finally when someone asks what's wrong, don't say 'Nothing'.This is something a lot of us women do. I don't know why we do it, but we do, and by the way I am a genius at this! Tell you what if you are lucky enough to have someone who asks what's wrong, then tell them! They obviously care enough to want to remove the stress, so work with them on this one!

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10 comments:

starry nights said...

Thank you christabelle for that wonderful post.I think sometimes even in my life the communication is not there.You begin to presume so many things without talking about it.

Dinma said...

Thanks christabelle. Now I know that communication can make things more easy.

The Artist said...

You write such wonderful blogs, it is always an inspiration to visit your site, best wishes, The Artist

Heidi said...

I keep alot of my emotions and feelings to myself..This is one bad habit i need to break.

Belle said...

have you ever thought about writting a column or something? seriously!

great post :)

Keshi said...

Peaceful communication is one of the hardest things for humans to do and it sounds astonishing. And like u said, it's with the closest ppl that it's even harder.


Keshi.

Etchen said...

It's funny, but your post spoke directly to me today. Thank you.

Amber @ Cafe Physique said...

I am so guilty of saying that "nothing" is wrong when it's not true. I don't know why we do that either, but I'm going to try and stop.

Orikinla Osinachi. said...

I agree.
But sometimes silence is indeed golden.

God bless.

Ebun said...

Its so good to be here again, I've missed you.I like what you said here about communications. This is really good.