Forgive And Set Yourself Free

We remain emotionally and spiritually clogged when
we hang on to grudges, resentments and other negative
emotions.

Are you holding any resentment toward anyone right now? If
so, your emotional and spiritual system is clogged. You're
devoting energy to a resentment, which is stealing energy
you could be applying to more productive things.
You might probably be saying, "But you don't know what this person
did to me!" That's true, I don't know. What I do know is
that your resentment or grudge is doing YOU no good at all.
Why hang on to something that makes you feel angry and
miserable?

If you think your grudge is too hard to give up,
or perhaps the harm was intentionally inflicted?
Consider this story:

New York City Police Detective Steven McDonald faced a
situation in July of 1986. While on patrol in Central Park,
the then-29-year-old detective stopped some teenagers to
question them. While he was speaking to them, one youngster
(15-years-old) took out a gun and shot Steven McDonald in
the head and neck.

In the hospital, McDonald learned that he would be paralyzed
from the neck down for the rest of his life. He needs a
machine to breathe.At the time of the incident, McDonald
had been married only eight months and his wife was three
months pregnant. He was in the hospital for 18 months.But
after being released from the hospital, McDonald forgave
the young man who shot him.

McDonald said he needed to do that to free himself from
anger and resentment. Simply put, he needed to get unclogged
and to move forward on a mission to change people's hearts.
Steven McDonald speaks in schools about forgiveness and
nonviolent conflict resolution.

The chances are that whatever happened to you is nowhere
near as serious as what happened to Steven McDonald.
If he was able to forgive a person who shot him and
paralyzed him for life, can you forgive those who have
inflicted some type of emotional or physical pain on you?

Remember, you're doing this to unclog yourself, so it
doesn't matter if the other person accepts your forgiveness
or even knows about it. For that matter, the other person
could be dead. Forgive the other person and free yourself.

Give up the bitterness and get on with your life. This is
not always easy and there is no formula that applies to
everyone. Make the important decision to release your
negative emotions.As you reduce physical clutter and forgive
those you resent,you'll gain a host of benefits. You'll feel
more comfortable in your physical surroundings. Your health
will improve. You'll feel less stress. You'll see new
opportunities. Your whole life will open up in ways you
never imagined!

Tags: Stevn Macdonald

Time Means Money

"Time na money" If you happen to live around this part of the world, you would have probably heard this phrase a million times, means time is money, truth is whether you like it or not its a fact.

You know, if you're ever going to take control of your life and make it grand, you'll need to start by taking control of your time. Without question, effective time management is fundamental to succeeding in any area of life. In fact, it is often the main difference between life's achievers and those who, although always busy, never get anywhere.

Most experts agree that success is the result of habit. Therefore, the first step in improving how you use your time starts with your habits (self control). And your habits start as consciously made decisions (i.e. what time you get up, what kind of books you read, etc.

Once established, good habits become second nature. In many cases, success is not so much the result of doing the unusual, but rather the result of one's ability to "master the mundane." By consistently performing all of the little rudimentary tasks that are important, over time these activities transform into huge achievements.

Here's some simple rules to follow for better time management:

Don't procrastinate. Do it now. When people put things off, it kills momentum, slows achievement of current goals and restricts future opportunity as time is clogged up. The way to tackle procrastination is to set deadlines by which goals should be achieved.

Track your activities. Memory is a poor guide when it comes to assessing how you spend your time. A better way is to record your activities throughout the day, listing everything you do. Most people will find that they have about three hours each day that can be used in a more constructive or efficient manner. Take stock of the time you spend chatting on the phone, flipping though magazines or aimlessly surfing the Web, and eliminate all that isn't necessary.

Respond quickly. For example, take care of your mail as you receive it. Don't let those bills and letters pile up on you. If you're unable to respond to a letter immediately, file it in a special place that's visible, and note on the envelope the required action and date you intend to resolve it. When possible, act on requests the same day you receive them. Don't let your computer, your desk or your mind become clogged with useless things.

Be Decisive. Learn to say no to people. Your time is important, so don't let other people impose or use you to compensate for their poor planning. Eliminate distractions as much as possible. Close your door, turn off the ringer on your phone or simply ask not to be disturbed.

By following these tips, you'll create more space to be, do and have more in your life. Best of all, you'll approach life in a more proactive and intentional manner.

Tags: time management

Hurray It's Friday!!

Well this is another Friday, and I'd like to close this week on a lighter mood, so enjoy these jokes.

The Silent Treatment

A man and his wife were having some problems at home and were giving each
other the silent treatment. Suddenly, the man realized that the next day,
he would need his wife to wake him at 5:00 AM for an early morning business flight.

Not wanting to be the first to break the silence (and LOSE), he wrote on a piece of paper,
"Please wake me at 5:00 AM " He left it where he knew she would find it.
The next morning, the man woke up, only to discover it was 9:00 AM
and he had missed his flight. Furious, he was about to go and
see why his wife hadn't wakened him, when he noticed a piece of paper by
the bed. The paper said, "It is 5:00 AM. Wake up."

Hehe! Know what?
Men are not equipped for these kind of contests.



WIFE VS. HUSBAND


A couple drove down a country road for several miles, not saying a word.
An earlier discussion had led to an argument and
neither of them wanted to concede their position.
As they passed a barnyard of mules, goats, and pigs,
the husband asked sarcastically, "Relatives of yours?"
"Yep," the wife replied, "in-laws"


CREATION


A man said to his wife one day, "I don't know how you can be
so stupid and so beautiful all at the same time.
" The wife responded, "Allow me to explain.
God made me beautiful so you would be attracted to me;
God made me stupid so I would be attracted to you!

Married Life Is Full Of Excitement!!! hehehe!!!!

Enjoy Your weekend!

Let Go Of The Past

Have you ever walked by a
low fence and wondered why
the dog inside will run to
it, but won't jump over,
no matter how many times he runs to it
barking and growling?
The thing is that the dog was placed inside
the fence as a puppy.
He grows up seeing that fence as being higher
than it is. He learned as a puppy that no matter how many times
he tries to clear it, it's just too high. Over time he gradually
tries less often, until eventually he quits trying.
He just knows he'll never clear that fence.

The same thing happens to us over the years. We try to reach a goal and
fail.We muster up the courage to try again and fall just short of the mark.
Gradually that fence becomes higher in our minds, than it really is.
It's a gradual insidious process and we seldom notice it's happening.
Over time that fence becomes more imposing. Our efforts become a little
less enthusiastic. We start building fences in our mind and like that
little puppy we begin to break. We begin a new goal with so many doubts.
We just know we won't reach it, and so we don't. We start thinking to
ourselves, I knew I couldn't do it. Our doubts become a self fulfilling
prophecy.

But hey! It doesn't have to be that way.

Realise this: Our failures aren't us. Our limitations are nothing more
than fences we've built in our minds. The cycle can be broken, if we
could learn to stop thinking about our past failures and concentrate
on the here and now. Stop mistaking your past limitations for who you are.

Let go and move on.
Begin every task as if it were impossible to fail.
You can, if you think you can.
Wishing You Success.

Keep this in mind; you have the right to choose!

Tags: dog, prophesy,

A Choice Is A Choice

Not making a choice is a choice.

Letting things just happen in your life is a choice.
Not putting your definition of success into writing is
a choice. Accepting less than what you deserve, based
upon your effort, OR, lack of effort to achieve is your
choice. The list is endless.We are all constantly presented
with choices every day,we make hundreds of them. You can
choose to be someone who make things happen, or someone who
watch things happen, OR, you can choose to let things happen.
To me thats no choice BUT, it IS your choice!

At times, the only choice you may have is to choose your
attitude and how you will respond to the happenings around
you. To choose your attitude and how you'll respond to how you feel.
These choices are powerful because they allow you the
power to stay in control of our internal thoughts even if
you cannot control the external circumstances. So making
choices must be a conscious response.

Making choices, and being mindful of your choices, is
important because it helps you remember that you are the
only one responsible for the outcome of your actions. By
taking responsibility for making your own choices, with a
positive attitude in tow, you remove yourself from the role
of victim. How about that?
Now here are a few choices I've made

- To put a smile on my face no matter how I'm feeling on the inside.

- To be the best on my job and in whatever I do.

- To be the best Christian on earth.

- To be a real lady; cool, calm and collected.

- To be focused and pursue my goals in life with everything in me.

- To make sure I marry for love.

- To make honesty my best policy.

- To be a success in life.


What are your own choices? come on, make the choice to go grab yourself
a whole bunch of sunrises of opportunity!

Tags: choices

Do you ever wake up some mornings and
feel annoyed, sad, irritated, depressed
infact mad with whole wide world and yet
you don't know why you're feeling like that.
I DO... Sometimes I hate myself.

Share Your Blessings

You've probably heard of the popular saying "It's better to give than to receive." But do you actually know what hidden power lies in giving?

When you give something from your heart without expecting anything in return, you release a powerful force that will trigger your good deed to "bounce" back to you in amazing, and sometimes unusual ways.

Apart from earning the respect and love of your recipients. You know that you will always have a loyal group of friends who would help, protect, and do anything for you just because they feel that they have to repay you in any way they can.
However, this does not mean that you must expect them to repay
you. Give without any expectation of rewards. Don't do it
just because you have an ulterior motive. Give unconditionally.
Give because you are happy doing it. The universe will get
back to you in its own special way.

Speaking of happiness, the act of giving can summon the spirit
of joy to come into your heart. How would you feel when you've
given something to your less fortunate neighbors and hear them
express their most heartfelt gratitude and see their smiles
extend from ear to ear?.

And what about this "Giving is a healthy habit. It could
prolong your life by instilling within you an inner sense of
peace and accomplishment". Great, isnt it?

But just like all things in life, giving has its limitations.
Being too generous can have its toll. Your kindness might be
taken advantage of and people might abuse your good intentions.
Beware of individuals who are continuously seeking your aid.
It's better to teach them how to solve their problems than to
always attend to their needs.

As the saying goes ...

"Give them some fish and you'll feed them for a day. Teach them
how to fish and you'll feed them for a lifetime."

Now that you know how wonderful it is to give, would you go out
to the world and share your blessings?

Tags:Generosity, Happiness, Universe

Something Worth Doing

Many times in life, whether a thing is worth doing or not, really depends on how you look at it. Take up all your courage and do something your heart tells you to do so that you may not regret not doing it later in your life...

This is a true story.

Let the spirit of friendship in us not die.I guess this was something worth doing. But then, judge for yourselves;

Horror gripped the heart of a World War-I soldier, as
he saw his lifelong friend fall in battle. The soldier
asked his Lieutenant if he could go out to bring his
fallen comrade back.
"You can go," said the Lieutenant," but don't think it
will be worth it. Your friend is probably dead and
you may throw your life away. "The Lieutenant's words
didn't matter, and the soldier went anyway.

Miraculously, he managed to reach his friend, hoisted
him onto his shoulder and brought him back to their
company's trench. The officer checked the wounded
soldier, then looked kindly at his friend.
"I told you it wouldn't be worth it," he said. "Your
friend is dead and you are mortally wounded."
"It was worth it, Sir," said the soldier. "What do you
mean by worth it?" responded the lieutenant.
"Your friend is dead."
"Yes Sir," the soldier answered, "But it was worth it
because when I got to him, he was still alive and I
had the satisfaction of hearing him say...."Jim...I
knew you'd come."

Now don't you agree?

Tags:soldier, Courage, hero,

For Love Or Money?

I was arguing with a colleague
about Love and money, he says
women only fall in love when the
guy has some dough to play around with,
I definitely diagree with him, but
he passionately believes it to be
true, so I've decided to share this
questions with all of you, "is it
possible for love to exist without
money?".
Please I need you guys to comment
on this especially the ladies
lets prove to this guy, that indeed love
can exist without money.
Who knows, maybe he's hurt cause
someone rejected him and he feels it's
because he's not rich enough, hehehe!
I told him I'm going to ask my blogging
friends and he agreed. So what do you think?

...So What's Your Excuse?

I'm not sure what the history
of "excuses" is, except to
know that a majority of the
time excuses equal some sort
of self-dishonesty. Infact
someone once told me that
an excuse is a well planned
lie. Period!

I think they're part of what we think we "should do" vs. being a "must do"! They come from us not being able to take our own "no's". They're what we say to people so that we "don't hurt their feelings". They are also what we say so that others
don't hurt us. Excuses are part of what we're tolerating in
our life that we know we shouldn't and yet feel we must rationalise it.

If we look it again one can say excuse is a self-destructive
alibi for having failed to do something, especially when it
involves attaining a goal. Instead of trying to persevere in
finding ways to continue achieving a goal, some of us resort
to excuses.Hm, the list goes on and on...

So what's your own excuse today?

A Word Of Advice:If you always have a lot of excuses, you should
strive more to overcome them because you'll be able to double your
achievement then. When the odds are greater, the prize gets much bigger.
After all the efforts you have exerted, the prize of success shall be
a well-deserved one. The fact is "QUIT GIVING EXCUSES" no matter how
reasonable you think they are.

Tags: excuses

Opinions...Or Facts?

If your mind was a huge, blank sheet of paper, what would you fill the space with? Would you use it to create positive or negative thoughts?

Using your mind as a blank sheet of paper gives you the chance to create new goals, and to reach for new heights. A blank page gives you an important guide that pushes you toward self motivation and inspiration. You can create a new beginning. It's your choice and not anyone else's. You can use it to erase any negative thoughts, feelings, or opinions.

When someone tells you you can't do something, can you separate the fact of their statement from their opinion?

Understanding that there is a great distinction between the two may decide your success or failure. How valuable is their opinion? What is the truth behind the statement? Being able to determine the difference between facts and opinions when you hear them is important. Always consider the cost of having someone else's opinion prevent you from doing something that is not based on facts. Do the facts out-weigh the opinions? Or, are the opinions more important than your desire to be the self you want?

This is like knowing that just because it's raining outside, it doesn't have to be a bad day. One is fact; the other is an opinion. Use this guidance whenever you find yourself hesitating to make a decision in your life. When someone gives you a negative opinion, you can accomplish more by not getting discouraged. Knowing that an opinion is nothing more than a comment of what, or how, a person feels and believes, is important because most of the time, it is not what they know that is true.

Tags: opinion

I am Thankful...

As we read this lets think about
all those that didnt live to see
1st of August 2006,like the people
who died in the many blasts around
the world this past month, here in
Nigeria a huge building collapsed last
week killing many. I'm grateful to be
alive and well, we sure do have a lot
to be thankful for.
Now don't we?

I AM THANKFUL:

FOR THE WIFE
WHO SAYS IT'S HOT DOGS TONIGHT,
BECAUSE SHE IS HOME WITH ME,
AND NOT WITH SOMEONE ELSE.

FOR THE HUSBAND
WHO IS ON THE SOFA
BEING A COUCH POTATO,
BECAUSE HE
IS HOME WITH ME
AND NOT OUT AT THE BARS.

FOR THE TEENAGER
WHO IS COMPLAINING ABOUT DOING DISHES
BECAUSE IT MEANS SHE IS AT HOME,
NOT ON THE STREETS.

FOR THE TAXES I PAY
BECAUSE IT MEANS
I AM EMPLOYED .

FOR THE CLOTHES THAT FIT A LITTLE TOO SNUG
BECAUSE IT MEANS
I HAVE ENOUGH TO EAT.

FOR A LAWN THAT NEEDS MOWING,
WINDOWS THAT NEED CLEANING,
AND GUTTERS THAT NEED FIXING
BECAUSE IT MEANS I HAVE A
HOME.

FOR ALL THE COMPLAINING
I HEAR ABOUT THE GOVERNMENT
BECAUSE IT MEANS
WE HAVE FREEDOM OF SPEECH..

FOR THE PILE OF LAUNDRY AND IRONING
BECAUSE IT MEANS
I HAVE CLOTHES TO WEAR.

FOR WEARINESS AND ACHING MUSCLES
AT THE END OF THE DAY
BECAUSE IT MEANS I HAVE BEEN
CAPABLE OF WORKING HARD.

AND FINALLY FOR THE ALARM THAT GOES OFF
IN THE EARLY MORNING HOURS
BECAUSE IT MEANS I AM ALIVE!!!

Tags: thankfulness